Sit Down

Sit Down

Yes you read it right,

There’s a difference between a conversation, an argument, a fight, and a struggle.

Do you find yourself unable to have healthy conversations with people “you care about?”

Are you always arguing to win but don’t know how to fight the right way (with the right weapons) for your relationships? Are your relationships a daily struggle?

  1. Don’t ever walk away: First advice only walk away unannounced if your life or someone else’s is in danger.
  2. ALWAYS Talk about what took place: come back after a break, (after letting the person know that a break is necessary) listen without interrupting, listen to understand what the other person is feeling, & saying, pray about it, don’t judge or try to correct. (You cannot correct other people’s feelings or emotions, with God’s agape love behaviors will eventually change).
  3. Honesty: always be honest with yourself, be respectful, and speak in God’s love. Love others as you want to be love!
  4. Flexibility: have a level of flexibility, be willing to give and take during the communication process, not everything that you hear will be what you like but be committed to self-love and have an open mind and listening heart. What you give is what you will take back.
  5. Trust: building trust is not an easy task, but it is A MUST. If trust was broken you have to work harder to regain that trust (are you willing?) Teach the person you care for them you are there for them and that they can count on you. Show them willingness to listen to their feelings, allow HEALTHY time for them to process their emotions and learn how to be of great support to strengthen the relation with yourself and others.
  6. Practice: allowing time to pass. You will experience anger (you’re human), sadness, confusion, PTSD (post-traumatic stress “distortive thinking”) yes (flashbacks) past trauma when new triggers remind you of the past. There will be moments when you might feel like “this is the exact reason why I can’t forgive”. However, allowing yourself (or the other person) time to process the thoughts, and for these thoughts to pass will bring things back to how they were prior to the intrusive thoughts.

If you need help navigating through your relationships or taking the time to sit down and listen or be listened to don’t hesitate to contact me. I am here for you.

Currently accepting national and international new clients for virtual sessions.

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As always, with my best love!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby


©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Published by Denise Kilby BCACLC

Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying the word of God, and expanding my view of life to help others. After studying and obtaining a degree in Psychology Christian Counseling, Crisis Counseling and Life Coaching at Liberty University I obtained a diploma in Life Coaching out of the missteps of life. I became certified as an Advanced Mental Health & Christian Life Coach through the American Association of Christian Life Counselors (AACC). Obtaining my international credentialing through the National and International Board of Christian Life Coaches (IBCLC) & the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC). As a fibromyalgia fighter, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, and sexual molestation over-comer I consider myself a victorious woman, who has been born for a time as this. My mission is to inspire with my testimony, empower with the word of God and encourage by instilling positive change, to equip others with life lasting tools. My vision is to help others live to their full God given potential. My objective it to share my life vision with those who are blind-folded by pain or circumstance and have lost hope, & become stuck in a rut but long for a change. I am a mother of three blessings I get to call children; two boys and a girl, wife of a man from whom I've learn to build character everyday of our journey together. I live in the blessing of knowing that I am a daughter of God Almighty. My advise to you, with the best love I have, “Don't stop learning, becoming, and believing in yourself-there’s a world that needs your help” Denise Kilby

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