Marriage is not simply a piece of paper as many are making it out to be as a way to simplify the commitment and justify their behaviors. Some reference the piece of paper to avoid getting married or to continue living in sin during their marriages and excuse a lack of willpower to change, and pressing on for the long haul.
Marriage is a sacred bond a choice that when we make it, moves us past lust, beauty, kisses and goes way beyond butterflies. A marriage is being present and a commitment of endurance, between a man, a woman—and God.
Marriage is an institution established by God that only God can decide what will happen to it, in it, during, and with it.
We are created for relationships and will always long and be looking for them in one way or another. But we should never move forward without The Lord. The Holy Spirit must give us peace to move forward in any relationship.
God’s intention was for us to have one another in a sacred unity apart from sin.
When God created the light and night He called it GOOD— the vaults of the sky and the evening, the morning, the grounds and vegetation and SAW IT He noticed it WAS ALL GOOD. The stars and moon and sun the animals and the birds.
And saw that there was nothing wrong with it and called it all Good!
BUT❗️
THE ONLY THING THAT GOD SAID IT WASNT GOOD WAS FOR MAN TO BE ALONE (Gen:2-18). Man in this context symbolizes human beings. Thus He decided He would make a HELPER suitable for him.
Every creature had a suitable helper—except Adam (Gen:2:20b). The human that He created with His own breath was the only one that didn’t have a helper.
Even secular researches show us that marriage is head-and-shoulders above other types of human relationships in terms of the benefits it gives to adults and children. Marriage is considered the best context for raising the healthiest children.
Marriage is God’s design and model of His love for children on this earth.
Every relationship must be process through the fire of The Holy Spirit and be submitted to the feet of the cross as Holy sacrifice and we must wait on The Lord’s okay to return it to us, to carry it for us, and to give us strength to maintain it.
Ponder upon the following:
- How is the sacredness of a relationship supposed to work if you’re not living with your suitable helper?
- Did you wait for your suitable helper?
- Did you wait on God or moved about on your free will?
- Are you dissolving or distorting the sacredness of marriage because you moved about acting on your free will and now the sanctity of marriage is severed?
- Is your sanity in jeopardy because you’re staying in a relationship that’s unhealthy to protect the sanctity of marriage even though your marriage is no longer sacred?
If you’ve been asking yourself any of these questions I suggest your ask for guidance and if you don’t know who to ask I am a direct message away.
Please remember that although marriage is the proper context for raising children NO ONE should remain silence in an unhealthy relationship to protect the integrity of someone else. Speak up, seek counseling, and help if you think or believe that you’re being a Victim of abuse or find your marriage or relationship with yourself or others to be unhappy or in danger. Reach out and report it immediately.
I am here for you!
As always with my best love!
Your coach,
Denise Kilby
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