You Have a Unique Identity

You have a unique identity, essence, qualities, gifts, a GREAT calling, talents, and your own beauty.

You have no need to change or attempt to change because there’s people actively attempting to coerce you to change who you were created to be.

You were created to be something wonderful! If you are loving a life where you are constantly, lying, cheating, hurting others, mistreating people, or being cheated on, mistreated, lied to, abused or neglected. Than I must tell you something must change.

Unless that’s the case you must remain unchanged. (If you are the victim of domestic violence or believe are committing violence against someone and want to stop but don’t know how seek help immediately).

Self- care: Now, let’s talk a little ably self-care. As you continue to live this Saturday become aware of your surroundings a little bit more, love yourself enough to enjoy every breathe you take, feel the sensations of your body with every stretch you take, listen to the sound of the birds when you go outside. Take the time to say something kind to someone and be mindful to their reactions and how that makes you feel, listen carefully to people when they speak to you.

Later on watch the sunset go down this evening and the sunrise come up tomorrow and make a gratitude list—enjoy the day with the people you truly love.

Accountability: If that person is simply you, well so be it, just make sure that you’re happy with your decision and actions. That you can stand by them with honor and respect, and have peace of mind at the end of the day. Think about yesterday, you can never go back to it, and tomorrow is not here yet, the only day you’re in charge of is today, with faith (hope) that tomorrow will have a different outcome than yesterday.

Awareness: Don’t change your beliefs for anyone else, always connect with God for guidance. Find the truth within yourself. You have your own essence. Living in regrets is not a happy life, chame and guilt are not the same.

Guilt speaks about your behaviors, and allows you to repent and be free, shame speaks about your character and condemns you holding you captive to bondage thus you withdraw and continue to make the same mistakes.

You are unique!


As always I am here for you, reach out and feel free to connect.

With my best love!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Published by Denise Kilby BCACLC

Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying the word of God, and expanding my view of life to help others. After studying and obtaining a degree in Psychology Christian Counseling, Crisis Counseling and Life Coaching at Liberty University I obtained a diploma in Life Coaching out of the missteps of life. I became certified as an Advanced Mental Health & Christian Life Coach through the American Association of Christian Life Counselors (AACC). Obtaining my international credentialing through the National and International Board of Christian Life Coaches (IBCLC) & the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC). As a fibromyalgia fighter, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, and sexual molestation over-comer I consider myself a victorious woman, who has been born for a time as this. My mission is to inspire with my testimony, empower with the word of God and encourage by instilling positive change, to equip others with life lasting tools. My vision is to help others live to their full God given potential. My objective it to share my life vision with those who are blind-folded by pain or circumstance and have lost hope, & become stuck in a rut but long for a change. I am a mother of three blessings I get to call children; two boys and a girl, wife of a man from whom I've learn to build character everyday of our journey together. I live in the blessing of knowing that I am a daughter of God Almighty. My advise to you, with the best love I have, “Don't stop learning, becoming, and believing in yourself-there’s a world that needs your help” Denise Kilby

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