Fostering Security

Secured parents raised secured adults!

When parents foster security within themselves or as a couple they are modeling this behavior and in the matter become more capable to secure their parenting journey.

Parenting is something that no one wants to be told how to do it, but we all wish someone told us the secret “how to get it done right.”

Some of the behaviors to parenting a secured base home at heart for your children despite what’s going around them whether it is in your home or outside in this fast spinning world are the following:

💡Emotional availability– be there for them when they need you, let them know that they can depend on you, that you are the adult and become self-aware (aware of the emotional triggers; don’t take their issues personal!) Practice coping skills, find a role model or mentor for yourself!

💡Sensitivity– their emotions matter, they’re important, be attuned to what they need, their triggers and how they might be feeling.

You get tired and burned and need entertainment—so do they. They’re missing out on important developmental human connections right now. Be understanding.

Be empathetic, a good listener, loving, kind, sensitive, genuine to their feelings.

💡Response– learn how to be responsive without being fearful. We can be firm and still love them. Show them assertiveness and praise them when they do something good and take away when they do wrong. Use the opportunity to teach and explain to instill positive change and growth.

💡Helpful– crisis rises opportunities, use the opportunity to learn. Always maintain a mindset of opportunities, bond with them talk about the benefits of being together. Learn coping skills, anger management and communications skills.

Find help if you don’t know how to, break the stigma. Be well, love and be loved!

Grow in your relationships. Don’t drift apart discuss and bond!

If you need help navigating though any of the tips provided above hit the contact button and I’ll be in touch with you!

With my best love!

Your coach,

Denise K.


©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Published by Denise Kilby BCACLC

Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying the word of God, and expanding my view of life to help others. After studying and obtaining a degree in Psychology Christian Counseling, Crisis Counseling and Life Coaching at Liberty University I obtained a diploma in Life Coaching out of the missteps of life. I became certified as an Advanced Mental Health & Christian Life Coach through the American Association of Christian Life Counselors (AACC). Obtaining my international credentialing through the National and International Board of Christian Life Coaches (IBCLC) & the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC). As a fibromyalgia fighter, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, and sexual molestation over-comer I consider myself a victorious woman, who has been born for a time as this. My mission is to inspire with my testimony, empower with the word of God and encourage by instilling positive change, to equip others with life lasting tools. My vision is to help others live to their full God given potential. My objective it to share my life vision with those who are blind-folded by pain or circumstance and have lost hope, & become stuck in a rut but long for a change. I am a mother of three blessings I get to call children; two boys and a girl, wife of a man from whom I've learn to build character everyday of our journey together. I live in the blessing of knowing that I am a daughter of God Almighty. My advise to you, with the best love I have, “Don't stop learning, becoming, and believing in yourself-there’s a world that needs your help” Denise Kilby

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