Have you thought of the power of your thought?
Every action we take begins with a thought. Following I leave with a few points to help you validate them, understand them, and take action base on the results you want to see.
1. More validating less victimizing: People will see you the way you portrait yourself, some may be closer to the way you truly see within and others may be way far off, but remember their opinion is based on your picture.
2. Observe your self talk: Are you very self critical, judgmental, or place unrealistic expectations on yourself?
3. Recognize and label invalidation: “I should” or “I need to just” are clues that something invalidating is about to follow.
4. Replace: The invalidating thought or statement with a question. Be curious. Just because you may not understand why something is happening doesn’t mean it isn’t valid. Try to make sense of it without falling into overthinking. You know yourself, your history, and your beliefs. There is always a reason we experience the world in the way that we do.
5. Be Gentle: You are doing the best you can. Change, progress, and forward movement are not possible in a judgmental, abusive mind.
6. Pass it on: Notice invalidation in your friends and family, encourage them to be mindful of their invalidating comments. Then you can fight back together, and support each other.
7. Encourage: encourage yourself and others with your story and testimony. Own the space in which you are right now and make the changes you want to see.
With my best love!
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