“Nothing you can do or say nor not do or not say could make God love you any more nor any less”

Life might seem complicated with a lot of rules, guidelines and regulation.

The Christian Life in fact may seem even harder to follow as a lot of organizations expect so much from us, and humans have so many man made rules and norms by which they expect others to live by.

This makes many of us afraid to let people down, disappointed or with a sense of dissatisfaction—making it easier to dissociate and isolate from the church community.

What leaves many of us dissatisfied and disappointed at times is seeing that many of these people set up a life of expectations that they only follow when they are at church (in the building) and follow the rules only when they’re around certain people who know the norms and regulations.

This also causes others who want to get to know Jesus (or are curious) to steer far away from Him due to a lack of consistency and bad testimony to the Christian faith.

How can we change this?:

Do we stop setting norms, regulations, and expectations and break all the rules?

Do we stop holding people accountable for their actions and let them come to church dresses however they want and do whoever habit they please?

Do we stop talking, preaching and sharing the gospel about morals and biblical principles?

The answer is simple, we study, and lear how to live like Jesus did so we can model His character everywhere we go.

We become real Christ ambassador.

Regulations are in place to maintain order.

Guidelines are in place to give direction and recommendations.

Norms are meant to describe what is expected of human behavior.

Rules are meant to be enforced.

Accountability is what holds individuals liable (responsable) for their own behaviors.

Without one we cannot achieve the other.

So, behave in public how you would behave in private and behave in private as if Jesus is watching because at the end of the day He is, and you will be held accountable.

As a parent His job is to love you, care for you, provide for you, but also discipline you, and correct you.

Wouldn’t you do the same to your children?


“For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11).

“Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid” (Proverbs 12:1).

Published by Denise Kilby BCACLC

Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying the word of God, and expanding my view of life to help others. After studying and obtaining a degree in Psychology Christian Counseling, Crisis Counseling and Life Coaching at Liberty University I obtained a diploma in Life Coaching out of the missteps of life. I became certified as an Advanced Mental Health & Christian Life Coach through the American Association of Christian Life Counselors (AACC). Obtaining my international credentialing through the National and International Board of Christian Life Coaches (IBCLC) & the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC). As a fibromyalgia fighter, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, and sexual molestation over-comer I consider myself a victorious woman, who has been born for a time as this. My mission is to inspire with my testimony, empower with the word of God and encourage by instilling positive change, to equip others with life lasting tools. My vision is to help others live to their full God given potential. My objective it to share my life vision with those who are blind-folded by pain or circumstance and have lost hope, & become stuck in a rut but long for a change. I am a mother of three blessings I get to call children; two boys and a girl, wife of a man from whom I've learn to build character everyday of our journey together. I live in the blessing of knowing that I am a daughter of God Almighty. My advise to you, with the best love I have, “Don't stop learning, becoming, and believing in yourself-there’s a world that needs your help” Denise Kilby

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