I used to always beat myself up for what others did to me, feeling guilty and extreme offense towards my persona keeps me in a unhealthy mental prison simultaneously. I would victimize myself by the wrongful choices of others toward me as if their choices were my faults—caused by my flaws. With much time and pain, and different processes I’ve now come to realize that I can only be held accountable for my actions—I will never be held accountable (and I refuse to) nor become responsible for anyone else’s wrongdoing. I can only be responsible for my responses and actions moving past that to a brighter and better future.
Life is more than the wrongful and wicked acts done to you, life is #EVERYTHING that you’re willing to do for yourself.
Be encouraged, change your perspective.
Hashtags for the week: #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #better
Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying the word of God, and expanding my view of life to help others.
After studying and obtaining a degree in Psychology Christian Counseling, Crisis Counseling and Life Coaching at Liberty University I obtained a diploma in Life Coaching out of the missteps of life. I became certified as an Advanced Mental Health & Christian Life Coach through the American Association of Christian Life Counselors (AACC). Obtaining my international credentialing through the National and International Board of Christian Life Coaches (IBCLC) & the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC).
As a fibromyalgia fighter, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, and sexual molestation over-comer I consider myself a victorious woman, who has been born for a time as this.
My mission is to inspire with my testimony, empower with the word of God and encourage by instilling positive change, to equip others with life lasting tools.
My vision is to help others live to their full God given potential. My objective it to share my life vision with those who are blind-folded by pain or circumstance and have lost hope, & become stuck in a rut but long for a change.
I am a mother of three blessings I get to call children; two boys and a girl, wife of a man from whom I've learn to build character everyday of our journey together. I live in the blessing of knowing that I am a daughter of God Almighty.
My advise to you, with the best love I have,
“Don't stop learning, becoming, and believing in yourself-there’s a world that needs your help” Denise Kilby
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Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC Assoc. 