Today is your day see beyond situations. YOU ARE MORE!

Life is a learning experience: you too can become unstoppable

When I would fight to get my husband to do something that I want simply to realize that at the end of the day I would end up angry, upset and perhaps heart broken and confused with God as he would always do what he wanted anyways. I’m not sure how may others have dealt with that with their spouses in the past or perhaps are dealing with it right now.

I started to learn in silence and use my learning experiences to try to help him and help others as well.

I began to realized that at the end of the day. I had to shift my perspective and perhaps my prayers and words that would come out of my mouth. That it wasn’t him who needed change but rather me, in reality he didn’t care what was happening, he was happy with his life, he was happy being him. He didn’t care much about God or being in a committed relationship or with a woman of faith. He was (or is) more a Sunday church man. But that’s between him and God. Why am I even sweating it, my job it to pray for it?!

In the middle of this messy, muddy, puddles said —I need to find balance to see and read between the lines. (Maybe God said that to me, or everything I just typed).

“My husband is unstoppable, he always gets what he wants

And to be honest, although defeated and even though HE DOES NOT GET WHAT HE WANTS— the lying devil also is pretty persistent when he wants something.

He wants our marriages and families.

There was an immediate awakening within me, while counseling someone in a similar situation and subject, that touched home. Something told me. “If your husband is unstoppable that perhaps is a quality that he is misusing using to his disadvantage”.

I begin to see all his qualities and everything I’ve leavened from him, career oriented, he’s smart, social, if he wants something in life HE GETS IT, I am telling you as his wife he gets it, (something that works against him in our marriage at times) I am speaking to you as a couch and counselor woman of God raw and open as I am.

Moreover, here, we can begin to see clearly how bondage works.

But we can’t let that blind us as individuals. We have our pub feelings, minds, thoughts, hearts, spirits, souls, and minds to care for,

My advice to you is to always find ways to learn something from every individual and situation in your life, and do not limit yourself in moving forward.

There will always be something to learn. You will learn what to do, and what NOT TO DO.

Pay close attention to the behaviors without losing your peace and remember don’t hate the person for their behaviors.

If you need help and coaching to help you keep going I am here to get you going!

Pray constantly. You’ll be amazed my dear!

The goal is not to fight against them, but to pray and fight for them. To get us to see the good in them. To see the potential in us and help us move forward in a healthy way.

Keep doing what you were called to do. You too have qualities and talents, you have potential, and you can’t stay on hold because other people decide to live life without you in their agenda.

It’s not time to sit and lick your wounds. It’s time to take action and learn from the situation at hand!

As long as you’re not hurting anyone you can become unstoppable!

Have a happy Saturday, always believe in yourself and the power of silence.


©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Published by Denise Kilby BCACLC

Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying the word of God, and expanding my view of life to help others. After studying and obtaining a degree in Psychology Christian Counseling, Crisis Counseling and Life Coaching at Liberty University I obtained a diploma in Life Coaching out of the missteps of life. I became certified as an Advanced Mental Health & Christian Life Coach through the American Association of Christian Life Counselors (AACC). Obtaining my international credentialing through the National and International Board of Christian Life Coaches (IBCLC) & the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC). As a fibromyalgia fighter, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, and sexual molestation over-comer I consider myself a victorious woman, who has been born for a time as this. My mission is to inspire with my testimony, empower with the word of God and encourage by instilling positive change, to equip others with life lasting tools. My vision is to help others live to their full God given potential. My objective it to share my life vision with those who are blind-folded by pain or circumstance and have lost hope, & become stuck in a rut but long for a change. I am a mother of three blessings I get to call children; two boys and a girl, wife of a man from whom I've learn to build character everyday of our journey together. I live in the blessing of knowing that I am a daughter of God Almighty. My advise to you, with the best love I have, “Don't stop learning, becoming, and believing in yourself-there’s a world that needs your help” Denise Kilby

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