Sexual Intimacy

Although sexual intimacy is not everything, it is very vital in the marriage relationship.

Yesterday I told you that sexual intimacy “is not everything”, right?

But before we go telling our spouses that is not important (or that we can opt out of it whenever) I want to break down to you why  is extremely important:

  • Marriage is a union of body, soul and spirit; that holds (stays together) with intimacy connection, and affection: we can break this down even more
  • For marriage to be strong, it is mandatory that there be intimacy that people know each other well, that they connect with one another, that they know the deepest secrets of their souls, and that they love each other deeply (without limits)
  • When this happens people come to love in this way: they make love (intimate sexually) they know and discover the bodies of each other, a connection of the soul is created that affirms and strengthens the union, and the love of the one for the another grows- creating a flame that cannot even be extinguish by all the fire departments of the world. Because this flame is spiritual.

Sex is not intended to be some kind of obligation or, as it was said in the old term, “conjugal duty”, sex is meant to be a wonderful moment of pleasure and enjoyment! In marriage, the sexual act is one of the most expressive, vulnerable and speechless ways in which you can create intimacy, since you and your spouse really enjoy each other’s company, which is something that today’s readings express wonderfully. So I suggest you create some time with your spouse today. Deepen your intimacy physically with each other. It is biblical!

Note: As long as there is a marriage bond established by God, there is no need to hide what God united and speak of it under smoke signals.

Creating time for each other is vital to your marriage and family relationship, your family’s happiness will depend on and be shaped by the love that arises in your bedroom (love not only sex-real love must arise).

The scriptures present us with beautiful ways of expressing ourselves with our spouses, I use them in my personal life and I trust that since they are sacred they are already anointed with a double portion of blessing.

Read the following and navigate in the sense of how far your soul can go.

You have captured my heart, my treasure,[a] my bride.
You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes,
    with a single jewel of your necklace.
10 Your love delights me,
    my treasure, my bride.
Your love is better than wine,
    your perfume more fragrant than spices.
11 Your lips are as sweet as nectar, my bride.
    Honey and milk are under your tongue.
Your clothes are scented
    like the cedars of Lebanon.

12 You are my private garden, my treasure, my bride,
    a secluded spring, a hidden fountain.
13 Your thighs shelter a paradise of pomegranates
    with rare spices—
henna with nard,
14     nard and saffron,
    fragrant calamus and cinnamon,
with all the trees of frankincense, myrrh, and aloes,
    and every other lovely spice.
15 You are a garden fountain,
    a well of fresh water
    streaming down from Lebanon’s mountains.

Young Woman

16 Awake, north wind!
    Rise up, south wind!
Blow on my garden
    and spread its fragrance all around.
Come into your garden, my love;
    taste its finest fruits. (Songs of Solomon 4:19-16 NLT)

They make anyone fall in love !

These words come clean but with double meaning, so that we can dedicate them, give them the meaning (without morbid) without corrupting and apply them to our lives.

What more wonderful than the sacred scriptures?

15 Drink water from your own cistern,
    running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,
    your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone,
    never to be shared with strangers.
18 May your fountain be blessed,
    and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
    may her breasts satisfy you always,
    may you ever be intoxicated with her love. (Proverbs 5: 15-19NIV)


The proverbs you just read speaks to us very clearly, of infidelity, of sexual immorality and of the importance of keeping one for the other. Yesterday when I was looking for scriptures for this series of devotionals, it never ceased to amaze me how the word of God can not be clearer. We have to be satisfied with what we have at home and stop comparing and wanting what the other has, working hard with what we have and praying that God will convert him into what he wants for us. Act with authority and respect. With courage in favor for what we want, and to always recreate one in the love of the other. We are already married!

“The husband fulfills the wife’s conjugal duty, and so does the wife with the husband. The woman has no power over her own body, but the husband; nor does the husband have power over his own body, but the woman. Do not deny each other, except for some time of mutual consent, to occupy yourselves peacefully in prayer; and come together again in one, so that Satan will not tempt you because of your incontinence. ” 1 Corinthians 7: 3-5 RVR1960

Watch one for the other, take care of your heart, try to be intimate, love without limits, be happy in front of the world but even more behind closed doors.

God bless you,

Denise Kilby

©️2018 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coach. All rights reserved.

Published by Denise Kilby BCACLC

Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying the word of God, and expanding my view of life to help others. After studying and obtaining a degree in Psychology Christian Counseling, Crisis Counseling and Life Coaching at Liberty University I obtained a diploma in Life Coaching out of the missteps of life. I became certified as an Advanced Mental Health & Christian Life Coach through the American Association of Christian Life Counselors (AACC). Obtaining my international credentialing through the National and International Board of Christian Life Coaches (IBCLC) & the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC). As a fibromyalgia fighter, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, and sexual molestation over-comer I consider myself a victorious woman, who has been born for a time as this. My mission is to inspire with my testimony, empower with the word of God and encourage by instilling positive change, to equip others with life lasting tools. My vision is to help others live to their full God given potential. My objective it to share my life vision with those who are blind-folded by pain or circumstance and have lost hope, & become stuck in a rut but long for a change. I am a mother of three blessings I get to call children; two boys and a girl, wife of a man from whom I've learn to build character everyday of our journey together. I live in the blessing of knowing that I am a daughter of God Almighty. My advise to you, with the best love I have, “Don't stop learning, becoming, and believing in yourself-there’s a world that needs your help” Denise Kilby

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