Finding Healing Amidst Emotional Abandonment, Lies, and Deceit
Walking away from a relationship that has caused emotional abandonment, lies, and deceit is one of the hardest decisions to make. Leaving the known for the unknown and having to start anew can be one of the hardest decision anyone could ever make to preserve their mental, emotional, spiritual, physical wellbeing.
The heartache of leaving someone you love deeply can feel overwhelming, but sometimes the most loving thing you can do for yourself is to let go of the person who has long ago let go of you. This post explores why walking away is essential for healing and preserving your mental health.
Understanding Emotional Abandonment
Emotional abandonment is a profound betrayal. It’s when the person who should be your source of support and affection leaves you feeling isolated and unloved. It’s when the person that’s supposed to care and make you feel secure, does the whole opposite, is when if you’re not careful you become a shell of yourself.
Recognizing this form of neglect is the first step toward healing. Emotional abandonment erodes your self-worth and can lead to feelings of inadequacy and depression. Acknowledge that you deserve more than being left to navigate your emotions alone. You are allowed to express your emotions and feelings without being afraid to lose the person you love.
Facing the Lies and Deceit
Lies and deceit can devastate trust and shake your sense of reality. Once lies or deceit take place on any relationship that trust must be hard earned back, the deceiving person must display and behave in ways that are consistent with what they express. This could take years…
However, when the foundation of your relationship is built on falsehoods, it’s crucial to confront this painful truth. Accepting that you’ve been deceived is tough, but it’s a necessary step in regaining control of your life and emotional well-being.
Choosing to Walk Away
Walking away from someone you love, despite the emotional pain, takes immense strength. It’s a declaration that you value your mental health and self-respect above the comfort of an unhealthy relationship. Understand that leaving is not a sign of weakness but an act of self-love and courage.
You should not be punished for walking away. You should not be abused for walking away. You should not be gaslighted for walking away. You should never feel guilty for walking away to do what is best for you.
Embracing the Pain of Letting Go
Letting go of a relationship, especially one filled with lies and emotional neglect, is inherently painful. Is painful for many reasons, 1) You are letting go of the familial to walk into the unknown 2) You are still loving this person 3) You never meant for things to be this way 4) You wish there was something that could be done, 5) This person has no emotional connection with you and perhaps has not have any in a very long time.
Realizing these things can be devastating to soul. Allow yourself to grieve. Cry, journal, or speak with someone you trust about your feelings. Suppressing your emotions can prolong the healing process. Embrace the pain as a part of your journey to recovery, knowing that each day brings you closer to healing.
Rebuilding Your Self-Worth
Emotional abandonment and deceit can severely damage your self-esteem. Rebuilding your self-worth is a critical part of the healing process. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who uplift you. But also allow yourself to be alone when needed and learn how to value being alone without feeling lonely.
Engage in activities that bring you joy and remind you of your strengths. Remember, your worth is not determined by someone else’s inability to appreciate you and love you.
Setting Healthy Boundaries
As you begin to heal, establishing boundaries becomes essential, this may be difficult because you love this person, but please remember this person has emotionally disengaged from you a long time ago.
Boundaries protect your mental health and prevent you from falling back into toxic patterns. Learn to say no without guilt and prioritize your needs. Your emotions matter. Setting clear, healthy boundaries is a vital step in preserving your well-being and fostering healthier relationships in the future.
Seeking Professional Support
Navigating the aftermath of emotional abandonment, lies, and deceit can be overwhelming. Seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide valuable support. Therapy offers a safe space to explore your emotions, understand your experiences, and develop strategies for healing and moving forward.
Embracing New Beginnings
Walking away from a painful relationship paves the way for new beginnings. It’s an opportunity to rediscover yourself, redefine your values, and envision the future you deserve. This period of introspection and growth is crucial. Do not jump into another relationship as means to heal, you will only numb the pain but not heal it, that pain will later on resurface to hurt someone else. As you heal, you’ll find strength in your resilience and hope in the possibilities that lie ahead. Feel your feelings, rediscover who you are at this new age.
Conclusion
Walking away from a relationship marred by emotional abandonment, lies, and deceit is a challenging but necessary step towards healing and preserving your mental health. By acknowledging your pain, seeking support, and setting boundaries, you empower yourself to heal and thrive. Remember, you deserve honesty, respect, and love. Walking away is not the end; it’s the beginning of a new chapter filled with promise and potential.
Choosing to walk away with a broken heart is an act of courage. Prioritize your mental health, embrace the pain, and take the first step towards a healthier, happier future.
©️ Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC. All rights reserved.
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