The people we allow into our hearts can either empower us or hold us back.
As we approach the end of 2024, many of us are reflecting on our lives, our choices, and especially our relationships. Whether you’re married, dating, or considering a relationship in the coming year, it’s important to pause and assess what we’re building and whom we’re building with.
Relationships shape us in profound ways. The people we allow into our hearts can either empower us or hold us back. That’s why it’s so vital to recognize the signs of a healthy relationship—and just as important, the signs of a toxic one.
Green Flags: What to Look For in a Partner
1. Consistency – Does their behavior match their words? Do they follow through on their commitments?
2. Emotional Maturity – Can they handle conflict calmly and respectfully? Are they able to admit when they’re wrong?
3. Kindness – Do they show compassion and empathy toward you and others?
5. Supportiveness – Do they celebrate your achievements and encourage your growth?
4. Shared Values – Do you both align on major beliefs and goals, or at least respect each other’s differences?
These green flags are signs of a partner who can build a strong foundation with you. They reflect a willingness to grow alongside you, which is essential for any long-term relationship.
Red Flags: Warning Signs to Be Aware Of
1. Emotional Unavailability – Do they avoid deep conversations or shut down when things get tough?
2. Disrespect – Do they belittle your feelings, mock your values, or dismiss your opinions?
3. Inconsistent Behavior – Are their actions unpredictable, or do they make promises they rarely keep?
4. Lack of Accountability – Do they blame others for their problems or avoid taking responsibility for their actions?
5. Toxic Traits – Do they display controlling behavior, a pattern of dishonesty, or an unwillingness to grow?
Red flags often reveal themselves over time, and it’s important to trust your instincts. If something feels off, don’t ignore it. Healthy relationships don’t come from perfect people, but they do come from two individuals willing to work on their imperfections together.
As You Step Into 2025…
Take some time to reflect on the relationships in your life. Are they helping you become the person God has called you to be? Are you surrounded by people who encourage, empower, and equip you to live to your fullest potential?
If you’re in a relationship, take stock of how you can grow together. If you’re single, think about what you truly want in a partner. And remember, the same green flags we look for in others should also be things we strive for in ourselves.
Let’s walk into 2025 with open eyes, discerning hearts, and the courage to build relationships that reflect love, respect, and growth.
Be Encouraged, Empowered & Equipped
You are worthy of relationships that honor who you are and help you reach your God-given potential.
©️2024 Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC Assoc. All Rights Reserved.
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