Compassion/ Pathos

Unless we truly face what truly concerns us and crush it we will always live in the denial that there’s is something wrong.

The devil wants us to believe that things are fine or that there is something simultaneously wrong with us for wanting to face the problem head on.

Learn how to walk by faith. Face the problem head on, come to an understanding and agreement with God that challenging the problem doesn’t make you a difficult person, or an unbeliever. It makes you brave.

Stop feeding the problem and allowing it to grow into your life and overgrowing into your spiritual life causing it to starve to death.

The healing power lives in the power of care.
Paraphrasing what T.D. Jakes wrote in one of his books (relating to trauma) “Peter challenged Christ’s compassion not Christ!

Learn how to challenge your miracle.

Challenge the compassion of people and see what you will get as a result.

Is it genuine love?
Genuine compassion?

Jesus rebuked Peter—when people are challenged and you are wronged (played by the devil-confused) they will stop on your tracks and let you know that they care, that they love you and more importantly begin to show you actions that will feed and nourish that love.

If you are interested in genuine care and compassion or need help and understanding on how to genuinely give it I invite you to connect with me.

Contact me for a free strategy session, even if I’m not the one I can help guide you. With my best love! Your coach, Denise Kilby
©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All right reserved.

Sharp Arrows

Children are compared with arrows in hands of a mighty man (or a warrior) of a person with power.

Have you thought about the influence & power that you have alongside God to raise your gift in this land and lead a generation of sharp arrows to change a world.

They are already sharp, they just need direction and wisdom that comes from above because trust and believe they are #smart—waiting for us to aim at the direction in which we want them to go.

Never with force, but with precision and anointing!

Observing our moves, and what we do with our gifts and talents, making a big impact in this society with opinions and expressions. #listen

The question is where are you aiming your gift?

Where are you pointing your arrow?

I am here doing the best I can, but I must certain aim my arrows as high as I can and with all the prayer, anointing, precision, and dedication that I possibly can under the covering and protection of my God.

This generation is not lost, they might have been shot in weakness or have not been shot yet. We’re still on time!

Let’s do this.

Contact me to help you connect with your children, teen and uncover the edges of your gift.

Don’t miss the opportunity for an amazing FREE time ME TIME where you can dedicate your children to the Lord in prayer (no matter their age-they don’t need to be there), your home, marriage, finances, career, goals, life accomplishments and more in a 40 min zoom meeting through our first New Hope Prayer Friends all you need to do is follow the link, and say “I’m in” in the email body and you will receive all the information!

I cannot wish to connect with you!

With my best love!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Blended Together

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in their lives what matters is what you’re willing to bring to their hearts.

Did you know that 40% of families are composed of blended families (stepfamilies).

Don’t allow me to bore you—stay awake!

Meaning that over a million Americans have a step-relationship with another person yes pretty much about 35% of every man, woman, and child!!!!!!!!!

Can you imagine the heave that it puts on children? #pulling

I can imagine! I’m part of one!

NOW, Unlike in this image I shared where a strong male is having his arms stretched by what it appears to be an average 8 year old girl and perhaps a 5/6 year old boy, what is being pulled in a lot these #households are children’s #hearts. Innocent, fragile, heart, that if are not handled with care will not make it unbroken to their destination.

Hearts are being pulled apart by the conflicts of not knowing who’s heart to follow, whether it is the mom, dad, stepmom, stepdad, grandma grandpa step-siblings, step-grandparents and the list GOOOES on (please contact me if you need more information)— every other weekend or even mid-week. What could be even worse is daily at times, multiple times a day.

Why should they, when we’re the strong ones?

Parents pray for your children!

We are the ones who should protect them and care for them, they should not hold the heavy load and haul with us!

How about if as blended families we rise stronger together—instead of bringing more turmoil to their already troubling and confuse hearts with everything that they’re seeing out in the world?

May we help them navigate through life by being compassionate and not hypocritical?

Can we truly teach with compassion and care, can we love fervently to remember daily that they deserve the best because they are tomorrows future standing in front of us?

How do we have the nerves to complain about this generation?

We’re raising them!!

How’s your blended family?

How are you blending?



If you need help navigating through your blended relationships, don’t hesitate to contact me!

I’m not sure what time it is where you are, but I am here for you!

Ps. Don’t miss the opportunity to a wonderful experience and connection New Hope Prayer Friends

You don’t need to do much, click on that link email me “I’m in!” and you’ll receive all the detail soon.

**Spaces are limited**

With my best love!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

In The Potters Hands

In the Potters Hands!

Don’t focus too much about reinventing yourself. Focus on consistency and growth.

Many people lose their spiritual growth in their attempts of reinventing themselves.

Make sure that your need for reinvention is a spiritual one and never a fleshly desire. We can’t walk around trying to reinvent the way we do things, or operate in a certain area, (including our relationships and our ministry) simply to attract others to us.

Yes, things need to change from time to time and reinvention will be needed to adapt—but don’t EVER reinvent to conform to anything that will hinder your soul!

We are to come and attract others to the Kingdom of God not to us as individuals, nor for us to be conformed to this world.

I am not utterly sure where I head this but “be a magnet 🧲 attract the right forces to you and in the same matter push away the wrong ones without fear!” You are the writer of your story, the keeper of your soul.

You got this! Keep spinning, keep rolling, keep growing, you’re in the potters hands!

Click on the link for a few passages that will give you insight on the this topic.

We are the clay in His hands—don’t reinvent unless you have been instructed by Him

With my best love!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Even when I don’t feel that I can keep going God reminds me that He is Able

I’m not sure what you’re seeing, how things are looking for you, or what your perspectives are like.

I could tell you what they are looking like for like for me, what I’m facing and what my perspectives are, however 😊!

…but where not doing that …

Everyday you may have to come face to face and fight a new Goliat. You will hear voices telling you that you’re not ready, that you will get defeated and stay right in the place you’re standing because you don’t have what it takes.

These voices may be internally or externally (looks, actions, abandonments, mistreatments, expressions, or expressionless) and in reality that doesn’t even matter. What truly matters is that you are ready to face those voices with everything YOU’VE got.

That you are mentally ready to pick up any weapon that you find (no matter the size or where it came from 😉 ) to use in your favor, and shut that giant up!

Keep in mind—that giant is there to defeat you, to speak evil and leave you there, to do his dirt and walk away, to walk all over you and leave you right where you are, feeling at lost, defeated and small in character, shape, personality and stature, spirituality, mentally and even at heart!

Now, God came to arm you with greatness!

Ephesians 6:13-17 tells us to Put on the full armorPut on the full armor of God and stand firm

Now to fully grasp those verses you must read the prior ones as well!

My prayer is that you can understand that even when you feel or think that you are unable to get out the rut, or that you have been there so long that you at confort and for just fine “so be it” God is able to help.

Whether we’re talking about, a problem in addiction, careers, marriage, with your children, school, friendship, family members—self development.



Please contact me if you need help understanding this.

With my best love!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby 🤍

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Trying to make sense to the world around me

                It is more difficult than it appears to be the reality truly pains me.

Have we honestly tried it all?

Some may have actually feel as though they have tried it all, others at times may feel as though they haven’t done anything at all to make these times better and the truth lies in the cruel reality that they have only reality that they have only been contributors to worsening the situation. 

That is not the case for everyone, there are those individuals who may have done something, but not for long, however. Can this be due to to our lack of spiritual belief, are be loosing faith?

Hmm…We may not have the same faith belief system for a lot of things, but it appears as though for protesting, or standings “for our rights Unites an entire Nation and World at times we don’t need to share the same belief”.

Why not try the same in prayer? For  a lot of “new trendy things” we come together and do it collectively. Why not try something new? LETS BE BOLD! How about we try to defend our eternity and our future generation from bondage and slavery and stay inside whether we have COVID19 or not, and instead of being out there fighting for our parks, and recreations, or protesting and rioting for what believe is right, and for who we think should win the next elections we stay in and pray to God to literally take the wheel of this world and spin it how He best sees fit, staring with our hearts?

I know that sounds scary. Everyone thinks about being alive and talks about having faith or believing in a higher being, but sometimes don’t even know who this higher being is. Nowadays and even those who call themselves “Christians” integrate theology to their social media and podcasts because they have some intellectual education on the topic but, appear to lack wisdom. They “preach” but don’t live the word of God. Who among you is wise and intelligent?

It’s not religion my beloved readers, it is indeed relationship, and “All Scripture is God-breathed  and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness” What truly pains me is seeing how many individuals are using this to obtain benefit and are gaining followers while YES, informing the world in diverse topics, yet not talking about salvation, based on what they are sharing.

They “preach” today sort of speak and get drunk tomorrow or are doing what the rest of the world is doing, go “protest” (to not say riot) etc… come on now is this the message we are to share?

Lets talk about what God wants of us. EVEN better lets talk about what would be easier to do and what would actually bring peace to us if each and EVERYONE of us actually decided to do.  So, as God’s own chosen people, who are holy [set apart, sanctified for His purpose] and well-beloved [by God Himself], put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience [which has the power to endure whatever injustice or unpleasantness comes, with good temper]; 13bearing graciously with one another, and willingly forgiving each other if one has a cause for complaint against another; just as the Lord has forgiven you, so should you forgive?

Just imagine, PLEASE, TAKE A MOMENT… and imagine a life like the above scripture and everyone living like that… oh my…oh my…Now now you might be thinking “that’s impossible” but I will ask, can you imagine you living a life like the above scripture describes?.

Now that actually takes a lot of teaching, practice, commitment and a WHOLE lot of holiness. How can people harm us, abuse us, betray us, mistreat us, hurt us, OVER and OVER again for generations to generations and we are to simply put on a a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience and bear graciously with one another.

There’s the key, in bearing graciously with one another, in preaching a message, in speaking or sharing a message of New Hope, however your faith or your belief system right now see it but compassion, grace. Giving something undeserved. If everyone did that, or becomes committed to do just that, this world would take on to a different spin.

Pray with a purpose United a Nation Under God, for the same thing, not for evil of vengeance. But for healing, peace, not only for the Nation but for this world, for your city, for your home, and for healing for your heart and salvation for your soul.  

I know it seems impossible, But with God all things are possible.

We have to do something different, Do not be conformed to this world (this age), there is more for you, you are more, this is not what was meant for you to go by. The Greek word methamorphoo- translates as “transformed, meaning to change into another form. Meaning that if you decided to, you too can be transformed through prayer, and this world through your prayers can me transformed into something else. Believe in New Hope!

If you need a prayer buddy contact me.
I am here for you!

With my best love!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby

2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Living Free This Weekend

I’m not sure if you’ll be able to stomach this today but I must pause and come straight forward to you.
At times I am stopped at a right or when or at a stop sign and I cannot help it, when certain things come to memory and I am have to write and share them almost immediately. I have to park my vehicle and give by grace what by grace I have received and thus have learned to give to others freedom as if it was oxygen.

Every experience in my life that comes to memory is an opportunity for me to share with you, a beautiful opportunity for me to grow with you.

I had NEVER spoken about anything I haven’t lived, ( I thank God for that) and I sure will never preach what I don’t intend to live.

We forgive to free ourselves from bondage and give grace YES, grace TO undeserving and uncaring individuals who lack the absolute importance of building a character of integrity or don’t pray to become empathetic human beings, or of knowing what it is to genuinely care for a soul.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation— forgiveness means freedom I will say it over and over again.
Stop denying yourself that privilege!

Now go on and get ready to kick read ends this weekend and do everything that God called you to do! One kick at a time. You were created for a lot more, You Are A Lot More!

In the process of forgiveness start with yourself, and then look outwardly. One must learn how to find healing in order to let go of the shackles that keep one heavy burden and dragging low to the ground.

As I said before—you don’t have to reconcile. But you DESERVE to be happy! to live lighter and fly freely!

If you need help navigating through this issue, contact me!

With my best love 🤍

Your coach,

Denise Kilby

©️Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

I am Here For You: Sounds Like a Big Statement, Be There For Yourself

Good morning my beloved friends and readers: I am here for you!

Thinking to myself as I navigate through life, I come to say once more

“Thank You God”

As I realize how easy a kiss turns into a smile, and a smile turns into a smirk, and a smirk into a glance, and a glance into a side look, and slowly depreciates into expressionless looks, fighting it’s ways into a “hello”, “good morning” and “whats up”.

I am so thankful that the promise wasn’t that “we will never have a trouble free life and therefore, we wouldn’t need anyone”.

We were born for relationships—let’s fight to maintain them. Maybe you are in the wrong one or need help to discover how strengthen the strands of it.

Please learn how to apply this to all relationships in general.

I absolutely believe that if those would had been one of the words that came out of Jesus heart ♥️ (lips) in the upper room before his betrayal and arrest I would most definitely NOT have the faith and belief I have today.

I thank God, he said instead “IN THIS WORLD YOU WILL HAVE TROUBLE, but take heart ! I have OVERCOME the world” (John 16:33).

He told us those things so that we can learn how to have peace! And be dependent on Him and rely on His purpose for our lives! Isn’t he lovely! #amazing if you ask me! Sleek!

He didn’t promise a trouble free life!

Thank you God for that and more—if He did I would be calling Him a liar and what not (I’m being real).

But in times of betrayal, heartaches, spiritual arrest and tribulations we are to learn how to seek help and find peace despite the giants that we see standing in front of us every morning and every night!


I know how HARD it is to ask for help. A lot of people say yes and FAIL YOU!

Many people “help” the wrong person, or see you as the problem instead of attacking the problem and seeing you as the solution to the problem.

I’ve been there and learned that all I had was God, prayer, and Faith to help me see what was within me.

It’s Throwback Thursday I guess we could take back a little huh 🤔 😉!

You don’t have to do it alone!!!

When asking for help, be clear, be specific on what you need, write things down, don’t be afraid that you be asking too much!

With my best love 🤍

Your coach,

Denise Kilby

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Sit Down

Sit Down

Yes you read it right,

There’s a difference between a conversation, an argument, a fight, and a struggle.

Do you find yourself unable to have healthy conversations with people “you care about?”

Are you always arguing to win but don’t know how to fight the right way (with the right weapons) for your relationships? Are your relationships a daily struggle?

  1. Don’t ever walk away: First advice only walk away unannounced if your life or someone else’s is in danger.
  2. ALWAYS Talk about what took place: come back after a break, (after letting the person know that a break is necessary) listen without interrupting, listen to understand what the other person is feeling, & saying, pray about it, don’t judge or try to correct. (You cannot correct other people’s feelings or emotions, with God’s agape love behaviors will eventually change).
  3. Honesty: always be honest with yourself, be respectful, and speak in God’s love. Love others as you want to be love!
  4. Flexibility: have a level of flexibility, be willing to give and take during the communication process, not everything that you hear will be what you like but be committed to self-love and have an open mind and listening heart. What you give is what you will take back.
  5. Trust: building trust is not an easy task, but it is A MUST. If trust was broken you have to work harder to regain that trust (are you willing?) Teach the person you care for them you are there for them and that they can count on you. Show them willingness to listen to their feelings, allow HEALTHY time for them to process their emotions and learn how to be of great support to strengthen the relation with yourself and others.
  6. Practice: allowing time to pass. You will experience anger (you’re human), sadness, confusion, PTSD (post-traumatic stress “distortive thinking”) yes (flashbacks) past trauma when new triggers remind you of the past. There will be moments when you might feel like “this is the exact reason why I can’t forgive”. However, allowing yourself (or the other person) time to process the thoughts, and for these thoughts to pass will bring things back to how they were prior to the intrusive thoughts.

If you need help navigating through your relationships or taking the time to sit down and listen or be listened to don’t hesitate to contact me. I am here for you.

Currently accepting national and international new clients for virtual sessions.

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As always, with my best love!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Don’t get lost in the process

A word of encouragement!

People will do and say whatever is convenient and convincing to them.

You must do them same!

However KEEP in mind THERE’S a GOD who sees it all. Keep pressing on. You Are More, than what you’re seeing right in front of you.

Don’t get sick and lost in the #process.

That’s all it takes for me to turn a mess into a message. A word from God.

Happy Tuesday, the devil won’t steal my joy! Say loud and believe it!

Now accepting new clients and booking virtual appointments.

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