Spiritual Self-Care = Freedom

Wednesday Wedge

Hello, my beloved readers!

I know it’s been a little while since I last wrote to you. I’ve missed you all (believe me) and I apologize with a “sorry not sorry” note, umm…in case that you missed on some encouraging, empowering and equipping reading.

But while I was gone I was seeking the author of the message to bring you all fresh messages.

See the thing is that I can’t pour out or quench anyone’s thirst with an empty cup at hand. I must assure that I am a full vessel with good content within to be able to give and pay forward all the goodness that I receive.

All my inspiration, and empowerment comes from the Lord alone. I had to do some self-care (practice what I preach, we can say), it was necessary that I took some time to get my affairs in order with the Lord. I’m not saying my life was in a mess, but I needed to bring you a fresh message I most reiterate. And that’s something that I can only get from the Lord Himself alone.

When Jesus needed a fresh word for the disciples and His people He took time off from the crowd and went up to the mount to seek His Father’s face, a fresh message started to bake as His cup was being filled.

I needed from the living water of my Father as well. I do that from time to time as part of practicing authentic spiritual self-care. It is through that time that I can see His glory, even go through trials, temptations and tribulations, yet, still choose to seek His face. My best messages come from my time of seeking.

Has this ever happened to you, that when you’re intentionally seeking the face of God all distraction comes to you at once, you get tempted the most and live in an array of mix emotions and conflicts? Ahh, welcome to human-hood!

Oh yes, that is part of the spiritual growth, the pressing of the olive to produce the best oil. That is the anointing in the making! I take it!

I always say that I rather live in the pressing than them wondering or not know what could come out of me in those circumstances.

If we’re not pressed to our full potential or push to our maximum capacity we might never know how strong we truly are. See my strength comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth. But if I’m not intentional on being strong I will live a life to rest in the lies of my adversary. I must surrender in times of weakness to gain new strength (His strengths). I must become uncomfortable with the normal things of this world to admit that something is truly wrong with the way of my preconceived beliefs. I must claim my strength and realize that when I am weak then I am strong (in Him) and that the strength from this passing world are temporary and come at a high price that I am being constantly asked to pay for.

Whereas if I use the strength of my creator they are free, the prices has already been paid with blood at the cross, and thus I can come for more any time I want and will never be asked to pay for them.

That strength is the one I seek daily, not from this world. Oh, yeah, not from this world at all.

Before I was born the price was already paid in full and my last day was already written down, and while I can’t seem to humanly comprehend such a gift (indeed hard to believe) I surrender. I come and seek my maker, my master creator, the Great I Am. The one who doesn’t need any explanation because He already knows my why’s. He understands why I feel the way I do, He just wants to hear me acknowledge that He exists to me, as I exist to Him.

When I come to the altar of the author of salvation o realize that His arms are already open wide like when He lived with us and bore my sins up on the cross. That is where I get fed of the living water, when I become a stronger vessel anew a fresh wine a miracle on this earth. That is when my cup becomes shareable and I can continue to pursue my calling.

How do you handle your spiritual thirst and self-care?

I’d love to hear from you!

Let’s connect 🤍

Denise Kilby

©️2021 Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC. All rights reserved.

The Day of The Lord

“Dear friends, this is now my second letter to you. I have written both of them as reminders to stimulate you to wholesome thinking. I want you to recall the words spoken in the past by the holy prophets and the command given by our Lord and Savior through your apostles. Above all, you must understand that in the last days scoffers will come, scoffing and following their own evil desires. They will say, “Where is this ‘coming’ he promised? Ever since our ancestors died, everything goes on as it has since the beginning of creation.” But they deliberately forget that long ago by God’s word the heavens came into being and the earth was formed out of water and by water. By these waters also the world of that time was deluged and destroyed. By the same word the present heavens and earth are reserved for fire, being kept for the day of judgment and destruction of the ungodly. But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. But the day of the Lord will come like a thief. The heavens will disappear with a roar; the elements will be destroyed by fire, and the earth and everything done in it will be laid bare. Since everything will be destroyed in this way, what kind of people ought you to be? You ought to live holy and godly lives as you look forward to the day of God and speed its coming. That day will bring about the destruction of the heavens by fire, and the elements will melt in the heat. But in keeping with his promise we are looking forward to a new heaven and a new earth, where righteousness dwells. So then, dear friends, since you are looking forward to this, make every effort to be found spotless, blameless and at peace with him. Bear in mind that our Lord’s patience means salvation, just as our dear brother Paul also wrote you with the wisdom that God gave him. He writes the same way in all his letters, speaking in them of these matters. His letters contain some things that are hard to understand, which ignorant and unstable people distort, as they do the other Scriptures, to their own destruction. Therefore, dear friends, since you have been forewarned, be on your guard so that you may not be carried away by the error of the lawless and fall from your secure position. But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.”

‭‭2 Peter‬ ‭3:1-18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Happy Sunday

Mental Health

If you or someone you know is feeling misunderstood and isolated, there are confidential services available virtually and over the phone.
Get guidance, counseling or free resources and referrals.

You are not alone and my goal is to help! Start the year right and string by getting to know yourself better, meeting your mental and spiritual needs and aiding to great physical health.

You could become what you invest your life doing. You Are More than that.

Here For You My Dear

©️ 2021 Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC. All rights reserved. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Connect with me ask me how!

Give Yourself Grace

. Give yourself some grace 🤍

Some of us spend a lot of our earthly years attempting to look for the best qualities in people—giving #grace, #forgiving and attempting to #forget making it one of our primary #goals (“to live in peace”) “in order heal & move on.”

Truth is that you’ve already been through a lot—too much perhaps, like to go about life forgetting about yourself in order to understand, and excuse others.

Rest it up 😴🤩

Have you thought about investing some of your time in yourself? Giving yourself grace and seeking for your best qualities—within you. Yes, based on the identity that’s was given to you by your father?

I believe it’s time that many of us decide to live our lives to our fullest God given potential, be intentional and practice it daily.

One of the greatest things in life is not achieving our goals (YES I’VE SAID IT) or living close to people who make us feel good (AT THE END THEY’LL LEAVE IF YOU DONT MAKE THEM FEEL GOOD-according to them, how they want).

One of the greatest things in life (IF NOT THE GREATEST) is rather living to our full potential. whatever that means for you.

Stop looking for validation and excusing other’s behaviors to find your place in their lives. FIND YOUR PLACE IN YOURS!

Live your life gracefully, gratefully, with high morals, values and respect for others, but overall respect for yourself.

Your feeling and emotions matter, your health matters, you deserve to be looked at as a serious matter.

Live your best life my dear, you can begin now, begin feeling and giving yourself validation, importance.

I am here for you, reach out!

With my best love EVER,

Your coach Denise K

©️ 2021 Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC. All rights reserved.


Love cares, respects, protects, builds, doesn’t harm, prepares and grows everyday!

Don’t let “love” make you lose control of yourself. Don’t blame love for unhealthy behavior that lead to violence and lack of tolerance.

You simply DO NOT destroy, traumatize, terrorize or abuse in the name of love to enforce (impose) your opinions or power unto others. That is lack of self control and attempts to control THE situation. This reveals weakness and while I can lend empathy to help others become strong when they’re weak, wrong is wrong and I CANNOT let you get lost and confuse manipulation and overt acts of desperation with love.

Love is a beautiful ability to have an a gorgeous emotion to feel It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. When we love and forgive we’re not giving others the right to continue the abuse, oppress us, or abuse power, we’re healing within, we’re become capable of managing our own emotions and controlling our thoughts.

If you’re showing “love” for what you believe in, or to anyone you say you love with expressions of violence in order to “be heard” I exhort you to get help—for your own mental, spiritual, and physical health. Seek freedom indeed, not by being told what to do but by being guided on how to do what you desire the most.

We all have enough at one point or another, I can understand…frustration and anger turned inwards becomes depression, don’t limit your ability to express yourself in a healthy way. Do not destroy yourself, you were created in someone’s perfect image.

Again, violence becomes abuse of power and it is not the way.

Seek counsel and guidance my dear THAT IS THE BEST WAY, PRAY WITHOUT CEASING.

Violence isn’t the WAY, NOT THE WAY—get out. Do something about it, please!

Violent excitement exhausts the mind and leaves it withered and sterile“. -Francois Fenelon

I am here for you if you don’t know where to #start!

Don’t forget we have free strategy session, let’s figure things out together.

With my best love in Christ and your best interest at heart,

Your coach Denise Kilby!

©️2021 Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC. All rights reserved.

New Podcast

Hello my beloved readers and valuable clients. We are on Apple-Podcasts!!

Here I leave you with some new content that you’ll be able to listed to while working out, commuting to work, working, or while you’re trying to connect with those meaningful individuals in your life.

Enjoy it, learn from it, ask me questions if you have to, and share with others as you do relationship with them.

Listen to “New Hope—with Denise Kilby” on Spreaker.

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-hope-with-denise-kilby/id1547685152#episodeGuid=https%3A%2F%2Fapi.spreaker.com%2Fepisode%2F42833679 look me up by name or “New Hope-with Denise Kilby”

©️2021 Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC. All rights reserved.

New Hope

Here is your Wednesday Wedge:

Let’s fix things up with ourselves, Wedge away what doesn’t belong or wedge it in to close the gap and become whole!

Unfortunately a lot of individuals don’t fulfill their dreams in life because they lose hope in life and themselves all together!

We can’t control what others do, but we are responsible of our own actions my dear.

They stop believing that they are capable of doing anything good, and lack the strength to become knowledgeable, pray for wisdom, seek help and clarity.

Don’t stay stuck in a rut because you lost hope in yourself based on what someone else may have done—even if it was you who drove yourself there.

I am here to tell you that there’s New Hope and You Are More, bigger and greater than the rut you find yourself in.

If you think this has blessed you or can bless anyone share it with the world.

Be kind and give yourself grace, give to others the strength that they lack. Understanding weakness help is become strong!

Don’t be afraid to reinvent yourself, add color to your life and start a new business or take on a new career this 2021.

I am here for you, if you’d like to connect hit the button and let’s do this!

Blessed to be a blessing,

Your coach!

©️Denise Kilby New Hope MHCLC. All rights reserved.

You are more than 2020

Welcome 2021

I am eager to begin a new year with all of you, this business is one of the things I am most proud of. My main goal has always been to deliver genuine service, content, and create humble connections with people who need me the most. Knowing that humans can change their behaviors when they’re listened to and express their innermost feelings is the driving force for me to answer to my calling. I pray that we get to talk a lot this year. I am here to listen, empower, encourage and equip you.

I pray that you’re ready to take on and live the life that you were created to live!

To another year 🥂🎊🎆🤍🙃🤩

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Mental Health Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Healthy Boundaries

Tuesday Thoughts 💭 Healthy Boundaries: COVID-19 Life Lessons!

Something I’ve noticed, is how during this pandemic to somehow avoid the rapid spread of the #COVID virus or to minimize being in closed tight spaces with people who might carry the infection that could get others sick and are thus considered unsafe there’s a waiting line OUTSIDE and space capacity ( #LIMIT )in a lot of places. Something/someone must come out in order for others to go in. Hmm… think about it movement, transaction = action!

And today as I am reflecting on the thought of creating healthy boundaries to protect our, minds, bodies and spirit, to go back to living a healthy life style… I thought about the lessons learned in life. #reflection

So I created this post!!!

WELP, after I create the post I realized that I didn’t have enough space to share… I needed to delete some images to create space for new ones.

Are you following me here! Oh, I so pray so!

We are responsible for the clutter that we allow in, and let it stay there. #movealong

“Like the window shoppers, holding up space!”

For the infections that we let linger, into our spaces and into our minds.

Creating healthy boundaries is detrimental for a healthy soul!

You are responsible for you. You are responsible for your own body, feelings, thoughts, spirit, choices, attitudes, values, talents, desires and behaviors. You are responsible for your health, to make good choices, to think positive thoughts and to have a good attitude.

Uncluttered—get rid of all the things/people that are no longer serving a healthy space in your love! Remember that we are here to serve as well not to be use.

If you need help navigating through any of these contact me you’re not alone!

As always I am here for you!

With my best love at heart,

Your coach—Denise K.

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christians Counseling. All rights reserved.

Fostering Security

Secured parents raised secured adults!

When parents foster security within themselves or as a couple they are modeling this behavior and in the matter become more capable to secure their parenting journey.

Parenting is something that no one wants to be told how to do it, but we all wish someone told us the secret “how to get it done right.”

Some of the behaviors to parenting a secured base home at heart for your children despite what’s going around them whether it is in your home or outside in this fast spinning world are the following:

💡Emotional availability– be there for them when they need you, let them know that they can depend on you, that you are the adult and become self-aware (aware of the emotional triggers; don’t take their issues personal!) Practice coping skills, find a role model or mentor for yourself!

💡Sensitivity– their emotions matter, they’re important, be attuned to what they need, their triggers and how they might be feeling.

You get tired and burned and need entertainment—so do they. They’re missing out on important developmental human connections right now. Be understanding.

Be empathetic, a good listener, loving, kind, sensitive, genuine to their feelings.

💡Response– learn how to be responsive without being fearful. We can be firm and still love them. Show them assertiveness and praise them when they do something good and take away when they do wrong. Use the opportunity to teach and explain to instill positive change and growth.

💡Helpful– crisis rises opportunities, use the opportunity to learn. Always maintain a mindset of opportunities, bond with them talk about the benefits of being together. Learn coping skills, anger management and communications skills.

Find help if you don’t know how to, break the stigma. Be well, love and be loved!

Grow in your relationships. Don’t drift apart discuss and bond!

If you need help navigating though any of the tips provided above hit the contact button and I’ll be in touch with you!

With my best love!

Your coach,

Denise K.

©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

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