Get Up Stronger

How are you feeling today?

“Pain and suffering can make us the biggest victim or the greatest victor” -DK.

antonika-chanel-467887Not many people are able to make a relation between pain, suffering, happiness and enjoyment. Trauma can definitely help you be extremely resilient. I don’t expect everyone to know or understand this at first hand but I will begin to explain.

Modifying your thoughts daily, perhaps every minute, will allow you to focus on what you want without feeling incomplete for what you don’t have. This is not easy stuff, and it takes determination and commitment, self-commitment.

Which is why most people don’t do it, because it can be easier to commit to others before we commit to our own selves. We can become more faithful to those who hurt us than to ourselves, (i.e. we set up a plan to go to the gym, eat healthier, and or read more but we are “ok” when we don’t do it). There’s always a next time when it comes to us, even if we feel bad inside or feel like we have failed, we suppress and hide the feelings and become used to it to a point that eventually we no longer care anymore. We put our dreams to sleep and live in a silence unhappiness with ourselves yet trying to please everyone else, and never allowing ourselves ti fail other because we care too much to look bad in front of others living a phony life.

Now, when we give someone else our word, for example; I’ll be there at a certain time, or make a commitment with a neighbor to  pick up their little one from the bus stop, we make sure to be there on time, and if by any chance we aren’t able to make it we apologize and also verbally express to our love ones (kids, or husband) how we feel about it. Yet, again when it comes to ourselves we keep our feeling run down by emotions.

A lot of times we are second in our list (if there’s only two people on it) and if there’s 10 we are that number 10 for sure. But we don’t give ourselves a 10 when we deserve it if number was the most valuable number. Are you following me?.

By distracting yourself from the pain and or situation that requires URGENT attention (your feelings) you are prolonging pain, the idea of feeling something uncomfortable  is so scary that we run away from it (suppress it-suffocating ourselves), worried that the emotions will overwhelm us and or devastate us. Know that emotions are temporary, you will only feel a certain way for a specific amount of time. You were created to feel, YOU ARE HUMAN (the time you allow it), no one can make you feel more or less than what you really want.

This is why is important to understand how to manage your emotions and separate your feelings from them. Pain can be a factor that alter our emotions, constant suffering can damage our feelings, but it doesn’t have to be in control of our happiness to the point that is keeping us on running from who we are.  Don’t allow pain and suffering to determine whether you will enjoy your life or not.

Be in control of who you are, connect with your inner self and admit, that you are able to get up stronger, yes, you can get up stronger. The place where you may be now is not your home (your feelings), that place is temporary (your emotions), be determined and reach out!

Pain and mistreatment can be a factor of depression, some people allow the feeling of sadness to create a “temporary” feeling of grief in their heart (which is healthy, necessary, and okay to a certain extend), or a mourning, an eternal  heavy burden in their lives. Are you ready to stop being a victim of the situation and become a victor and come up stronger from the circumstances?  #balance

“Situations, circumstances, and emotions are all temporary, but feelings are long-lasting. Don’t let “the” today determine how you will feel tomorrow.” 

– Denise Kilby

Genuinely with all my best love!

Your Coach,

Denise Kilby


©️ 2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Small Changes Lead to Big Accomplishment!

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It may take some of us longer than others to adapt to new changes and to see the “why” of things, but believe me when they say “everything happens for a reason” Believe that everything happens for a reason, there’s a purpose for everything and everyone that crosses your path.

•Approaching changes with confidence of who you are, will allow you to connect with the “inner you” (your soul), let’s face it; you will begin to realize that you can if you try, and that will open up your mind to new ideas enabling you to always aim higher.

• Things are meant to change and we are meant to grow in life!

• Make sure to live your life happy with who you are, not simply in mental contempt, as mental contempt leads to satisfaction but happiness leads to bigger achievements.

“…don’t adapt to this world, have the world adapt to who you are” -DK.

• Think of yourself as an extraordinary person, you’re not ordinary!

• See beyond a picture and look for the story behind it, expand your thinking #criticalthinker and remember that everyone has a story to tell.

What’s yours, are you creating your story?

Start today, you’re not average #youremore  you are not ordinary, you’re extraordinary, not of this world, expand your view of life!

You are Extraordinary Not of This World Life an Holy Unapologetic Life!

Lets connect and stay tune for more!

Your coach,

Denise Kilby


©️2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Mount Up With Wings Like Eagles!

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“But those who wait on The Lord Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like the eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.” (Isaiah 40:31 NKJV)

Ordinary people will never understand this, but I do. I know what it is to wait for things that in the ordinary I never thought would come through, I know what is it to pray when I felt like crying and what it is to cry when is time to pray and reclaim victory. But most importantly I know what it is to wait because I believe in the word of God…and if I wait for Him to act on His appointed time (not mine). Thus, I will eventually mount up with wings like the eagles.

I consider myself to be one of His extraordinary, therefore I believe in extraordinary things. I believe that if pray great things are to happen, I believe that if I fall I will get back up stronger; now do you see that? I said I will get back stronger…not just get back up.

Ordinary people don’t get back up, but extraordinary people get back stronger. Show those around you that you are not of this world even if you live in it. In my case I am walking the process that will take me to my destiny (something that only extraordinary person would comprehend). I am renewing strength, don’t celebrate if you see me down—get ready, I’m coming back stronger. I am walking (there’s a purpose) and even if I feel like I am fainting I shall not faint…(ha, brace yourselves you’re witnessing something wonderful take place).

Now…

  • Ask yourself, am I coming back stronger of whatever situation I find myself in?
  • Is this producing fruit that will be worth passing on to my legacy?
  • Am I just living like the rest, breathing and waiting for my time of death, or am I living like the extraordinary person…going for more and rising up from the aches?

Diamonds are form in the dirt (in the deepest of it indeed), they are sorted (picked/chosen), they are polished with fire under pressure, burned to get the best out of them, then they are cut (sometimes being cut hurts but is necessary), and finally they are graded, what would you grade yoursel?

(I have news for you, you don’t get to grade yourself Jesus already did in the cross).

Then, they are delivered to be displayed (are you ready for everyone to see what you are made of?).

Don’t be just another stone…be a diamond. A gem. Connect with your soul without fear of being bur and cut.

Are you renewing your strength, or simply waiting to become more weary until you faint because the process is too painful?

Stew on it, keep scrolling comment and or email me for a more private connection. #theresmore You are more!

 

“This crusade is the path that will lead me to the battle, but I rest easy…that war is not mine to fight” -Denise Kilby

 


©️2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Silence the Noise that Comes With the Situation

“Being aware of our current situation will make us less vulnerable of the noises that come with it” – DK.

You don’t need to hide. Face the situation head-on!

When we are in the middle of the storm the best thing we can do is focus on how to remain standing.

Yes, some people might think that you lost your mind when you’re in the middle of the storm and you can still smile, others will think you don’t care, and many others will think you don’t get the severity of things.

The reality is that is all about creating balance and focusing on what requires the most attention, focus and effort. Learning to control your emotions is a virtue that not everyone possesses (that’s right), and it takes a lot of practice and a very profound spiritual believe to understand when to remain calm.

There’s time to cry and there’s time to smile, there’s time to beg and there’s time to claim. Although these times may require the same tone and perhaps same physical look they will have different outcomes, knowing the difference is what makes you unique, and knowing your uniqueness is what makes you understand your situation.

Understanding the situation is what will enable you to shut the noises that come with it, no matter the circumstances you will learn to discern and to silence the enemy who is trying to confuse you. You will learn; when to ask and when to wait, when to speak and when to remain silence, when to give and when to take, when to sow and when to reap.

All you need to do is get a hold of yourself and take time to understand. There’s only one power that can calm the waves of the ocean (the power of God), your job is to learn how to sail.

  1. Have Faith
  2. Sail
  3. Keep Calm
  4. Be virtuous
  5.  Believe
  6. Pray Constantly
  7. Trust God At All Times

You will reap what you have sown.

Contact me for more…

With the best love,

Denise Kilby


©️2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Fix Your Eyes on Greatness

“Let’s look at our lives how no one else ever will” – DK.

A positive mind is much easier to persuade…

• Let’s be positive and focus on the great things (we DO have) rather than on the not so great (the ones we don’t see).

• I’m a firm believer that is of utmost importance to look back from time to time.

• Take a glance look back at life

•If you made it this far you will advance much more.

• Be grateful and count your blessing

• Don’t ever be afraid to do something for yourself.

•Be caring, learn from others, what to and what not to do.

• Be unique, conquer, fight, don’t give up, share goodness, good vibes, be positive, love others, be kind, be genuine, but most importantly #BeYou

“In every heart is a hidden gem waiting to come out and make an impact in someone else’s life” Denise Kilby

Stay tune for this and more, contact me for some private advice and guidance!

Stay blessed and bless others.


©️2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Seek Happiness

“Happiness doesn’t come from big pieces of great success, but from small advantages hammered out day by day.” – Jim Rohn

I have great plans for my life, for the person I want to become, and for the world I want to contribute to and give back to. I know that if I stay still when life circumstances puts a pause on my life/day, that hiatus can become a permanent or very long stop so I work with what I can and do as much as I can given the set of environmental situations.

Today may not await, life will continue to happen, and I must live to be part of it. In order for me to fulfill my God given destiny I must strive for success.

Every morning whether I am having a bad flare (for those who don’t know I Fight Fibromyalgia on a daily basis) or not I say to myself “today will be a great day” before I begin to complain I commence to give thanks.

We have received far more than what we have given in this life; don’t forget to take advantage of the given opportunities instead of complaining for the given situations.

I read spiritual, educational, motivational and inspirational content to help me stay focus on my goals and redirect myself if I may have lost track. I meditate on what I have and ask for guidance, I write to inspire, motivate, clear my mind, challenge myself and never forget.

So when life tries to stop me in one area of my life I use it as a stepping stone to advance in others and get to my tomorrow.

I advice you to study, educate yourself clear your mind, reconnect, take advantage of being alive and the situations the bad things happening are only circunstancial. Believe in new opportunities, getup and fight for what you want, run the good raise of life and live out your dreams with love by trying a little bit more everyday.

“If you need help remembering who you are, think about how far you’ve come” – Denise K.

Keep scrolling and contact me for more information on how to seek your true happiness.

 


©️2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Can You Hear Your Teenager’s (silent) cry?

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“A baby will grow to be an adult one day but that baby will never stop being your child” DK.

Most adolescents feel trapped living a life that doesn’t belong to them, but again they don’t know how to escape from that causing them to life in conflict with themselves. Very often teenagers go with the crowd only to realize later on in their adult lives that they lived a life that wasn’t for them, leaving them with regrets and a sour taste of the most glorious and potentially most beautiful years of their lives. All teenagers experience a stage called Pathological Narcissism, and while they may appear to be “okay” and act like they have it all under control portraying a selfish, self-centered egocentric image, the reality is that a lot of teens are nowadays crying in silence inside. Adolescents are fragile individuals, who might appear as though they’re pushing you away in their silent attempts to draw you closer, all  your child want is for you to be closer and understand.

Please do just that GET CLOSER Giving space doesn’t necessarily mean “go away”.

-Sometimes a hug can help shape their lives-

  1. Have you noticed your adolescent’s cry for help?
  2. Do you know how to identify it?
  3. Do you need help identifying your own child’s cry?
  4. When was the last time you hugged your teen?
  5. Do you still have dinner together (at home)?

If any of the above seem to hit close to home, reach out to me:

• Learn how to help without being noticed

• Obtain information to understand their silent cry

• Learn about alternatives, to be away from your teen but having your child around adults most of the time.

• Learn your children’s signs of depression, anxiety and eating disorder

If you’re a teen:

  1. Do you feel trap as if no-one understands?
  2. Tired of the same vague therapy, and of being treated like a kid?
  3. Do you want to connect with your parents again?

•Learn how to get closer to your parents

• Understand that they just want to help

• Parents distance because they think that’s what you want – Learn how to let them know they’re wrong without making them distance even grater

• Obtain coping skills & learn about alternatives; and how to help a friend who may be experiencing the same.

Adolescents under 18 need parents permission to connect for coaching but can connect. Feel free to follow read and revisit the page anytime.

 

“We are created to help, to live and to help keep others alive…are you living?” -Denise Kilby

Keep scrolling, #letsconnect

Parents this information is a free guide, please reach out for a free consultation if you’d you like more information on this topic.

Best Love!

Your Coach,

Denise Kilby

 

 


©️2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching . All rights reserved.

Get Up Stronger

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“At times is necessary to touch bottom and be laid flat on the ground to realize how much higher from it we belong” -DK.

That statement above can sound harsh right.

I am not saying live in the clouds and act as though you’re better than everyone around you, but what I am definitely trying to say instead is that the best comes out when we’re in our lowest places.

Suffering can increase your motivation, it is during our hardest moment that we realize that “something’s gotta give” things can’t remain the same, “I must make a change”.

If you’re disconnected—from what you’re going through you can either tell yourself

“I will never make it, I’m not enough, this is always the same, I knew this would fail, why do I even try?, everyone lives better than me, everyone looks better than me…”etc.etc. or you can hit the switch re-connect with the inner beauty that lives within you and tell your beautiful soul;

“I will make it and if I don’t make it now, I will try again, I am more and I am loving myself, this time it will not be the same, I know I will not fail and if it doesn’t work out I am ok with that, I will always try, I will live the life I want, I look as good as God because I am made in His image and likeness”, and so on and so on… learn how to look up right from where you are, use that ground to step on it.

Recondition your brain, revalue who you are. Find the purpose of the pain, think what it has to offer, what would come out of it. Although you may not know the answer now I’m one hundred percent sure that if you practice this every time you feel down, or left down you will learn to cast your eyes on the things that are higher, and find yourself there all along.

Your inner kid is still inside yearning for help and approval and you are the only one who can provide this comfort and reassurance. Because you are an adult now. But you will not realize this until you love yourself fully and accept all the pieces of yourself.

“We come alone to a world filled with millions of souls, we leave this world and we get to take one…our own” -Denise K.

 

For more information and to connect with me keep scrolling and reach out, hold my hand and know that you’re not alone ☺#reachout


©️2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Bring Out the Calm You

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Do you often feel unable to control your thoughts and worries, always thinking about your job, your relationships, your health, or simply everything and everyone all at once?

We will always worry about the things that matter the most to us, after all. It is an understandable part of our human nature to care for those we love, and make sure that the things we value are going just well.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to become self-sabotage. Have you been more anxious than ever lately (or does it seem like it at least)? Are you questioning your image, your weight, unable to control small situations, feeling like your getting older, scared of not aging successfully, or experiencing overall unhappiness?

If you answered “yes” to any of those questions you’re not alone, I have been there, they (others) have been there, you’re there; we’ve all been there! Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness affecting over 40 million  Americans today (imaging the rest of the world), and including a long list of hard to identify symptoms.

But I want you to please, know that there’s more within you, that you are more than what you think, that things are not as bad as they seem, and again, you are not alone.

Believe it or not there are ways to turn off your anxiety without medication and with self meditation, reconnecting with the inner you who (is anxious) wants to come out.

Fixating on your past, being fearful of your future and not being connected with yourself in the present moment will take a toll on your mental, emotional and physical health and overall well-being.

I’m not saying let’s unplug and disconnect!

Now is the time to learn some meditation techniques, lets activate those endorphins in your brain. Let me teach you how to make them act as sedatives to calm that anxiety and get re-rooted to your ground.

It’s time to shut off your anxiety and turn on your life!

“You can’t say that you’re living if you’re not enjoying your life” —Denise Kilby

Contact me for more information, tell me how I can help you. There’s hope!

Thanks for trusting me!

Your Coach,

Denise Kilby


©️2017 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

Take Risks That Don’t Place Your Future in Jeopardy

Don’t be scared of taking risks and doing what you want. Thinking about it will not get you anywhere.

In this life you reap what you have sown.

Are you sowing?

A have a few more questions:

  1.  Are you fighting for what you want or what you (who) want is fighting you? You know what you want, why not go get it instead of losing sleep over it.
  2. Are you doing anything today that will add or subtract to your future? Invest in your future, at time not investing equals spending (even time).
  3. Are your dreams scaring you and chasing away instead of you chasing them, are you fleeing? Then those are the dreams that you need to turn around and go after. That’s your calling, God will take care of the rest, but you have to take the first step.
  4. Are you tired of belonging to the government, society, racial injustice, discrimination, stereotyping, your boss, religion, “what people may think”? Become the government, contribute to society, fight for racial justice with peace, do not discriminate (not everyone of a certain color is a certain way), stop being stereotypical yourself (not everyone of a certain color is racist or hates you), and become your own boss, don not conform to the patterns of this world END religion and follow God-Jesus your Savior’s foot steps, that will help you worry less about what people think. Give them something to talk about.
  5. Is your view too small or too broad , can you visualize (faith) yourself 3 years from now?

HOW ARE THINGS WHEN WE FLIP THEM UPSIDE DOWN A BIT, HOW DO THINGS LOOK NOW? LET’S GET RAW!

If you’re view is too small is because you need to believe in yourself (you’re more), if your view seems to BROAD is because you’re getting ahead of yourself (perspective), and if you can’t see what other’s see or empathize with vision (faith) is because you’re stuck looking back and further action is required.

•do something amazing •right there •right now •take action •move forward •go for it •you can do it •dream •believe •achieve •don’t quit •make history •women •men •youth •children •you’re capable •trust God •have-faith •lifecoach

Contact me for more, let’s connect!

-Denise K.


©️2018 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching. All rights reserved.

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