Put The Cart Before The Horse

Oh yes, Fall is here we can feel the change in air the crisp cold grass, the leaves leaving the trees, and the trees remaining still reminding us that change is inevitable, and that is perfectly okay. Some leaves will come back but those leaves will never be the same that fell off this season, the trees are sure that if they remain rooted they will not fall no matter what they must face alone and naked this season.

Unsure of where life is taking you, whether you’re facing it alone or are ready to head straight on.

I ask myself, should I even ask, how are you feeling this Friday, or advice you to start taking on life from the approaches and the opportunities you are left with? At times we have no other choices my dear… Get on that front seat if you want to drive, “put the cart before the horse” if you want to get some where, stay rooted if you don’t want to loose ground. Don’t wait for things to look or come back to be the way they once did.

You might never get those opportunities again.

Easier said than done, but you can always accomplish by looking for a brighter tomorrow and the stepping into faith NOW, because faith shows the reality of what we hope for by using all the resources you have. Things can start to look brighter when you begin to use your tools right. First things first, and in case the image is too hazy for you to make out the words I want to type the message out again for you to have and re-read as many times as needed. Just like poems, that must be re-read to be absorbs and grasp to the fullest to the point the become penetrated in our inner most.

Now you may be asking, why is it so important to have these words engraved in my mind and present?

Why is she talking about grief, heartbreak, pain, rebuilding, or stress, even PUTTING THE CART BEFORE THE HORSE, and driving… Because:

“In life you will have your heart broken more than one TOO many times, you will have to face life uncertain of your next destination, and you will have to be willing to walk without having all the strengths that you may wished for to face a new day after a sleepless night. Life will not always give you the right brush to paint the BEAUTIFUL picture you dreamed of during your childhood—the canvas may not be pressed right or stretched enough and you will have to improvised with your fingers on a new floor. People may not let you go, and it won’t be necessarily due to love, but because they’re afraid to see you overcome. However, learning to do new things that you have to as if they were the things that you wanted to do will teach you how to become a master of new ideas.”

After an individual faces any of the things I’ve mentioned above in order to overcome any and become a master of new ideas they must know how to handle their stressors, what to do with their pain, and how to recognize what triggers their emotional responses.

When a person is under under stress and danger the natural reactions of the body is to experiences a hormonal psychological change, reacting on a fight, flash, and freeze. If a person is more conscious to their stressors an individual will build knowledge of what’s going on and where to go to build their own recovery path in the event they were facing a crisis to overcome grief and find the help they need to achieve their goals.

Understanding that you were born to be victorious and not a victim and that what you’re facing is not what will shape you will provide you with the tools to build your future.

(About the image, as a subscriber of adobe spark I create my images there and I get to remix some too this being one of them. I saw this image with a different message written and frankly I didn’t even read what it originally said before I felt the urge to remixing it and create this message for you).

As always, if you or anyone you know needs help help navigating through difficulties, reach out.

Hit the connect button. I am here for you!

Have a happy weekend!

With my best love,

Denise Kilby


©️2020 Denise Kilby New Hope Christian Life Coaching . All rights reserved.

Published by Denise Kilby BCACLC

Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying the word of God, and expanding my view of life to better help others. After studying Psychology Christian Counseling, Crisis Counseling and Life Coaching at Liberty University. I decided to make of Life Coaching my career thus I became certified as an Advanced Christian Life Coach by studying at Light University through the American Association of Christian Life Counselors (AACC). I obtained my international credentialing through the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC). As a fibromyalgia fighter, panic attacks, depression, anxiety, childhood trauma, and sexual molestation over-comer I consider myself a victorious woman, who has been born for times as this. My mission is to inspire with my testimony, empower, encourage and equip others, by instilling a positive change, on individuals. My vision is to help others live to their full God given potential. My objective it to share my life vision with those who are blind-folded by pain or circumstance and have lost hope, & become stuck in a rut but long for a change. I am a mother of three blessings I get to call children; two boys and a girl, wife of a man from whom I've learn to build character everyday of our journey together. I live in the blessing of knowing that I am a daughter of God Almighty. My advise to you, with the best love I have, “Don't stop learning, becoming, and believing in yourself-there’s a world that needs your help” Denise Kilby

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