365 Days of New Opportunities

Could we change something this year?

What if I tell you we can?

There are circumstances that we create and turn into situations that mark our lives, many others are circumstances of which we become victims because of family members or people with whom we live create a series of situations and even if we do not want to, we become easy prey of the adversary and without realizing we end up addicted to an abusive and unwanted life pattern.

But with each new day comes the opportunity to start from zero.

You see what I am saying (I truly hope so), every time I say God what is going on with this world why isn’t anyone doing anything for each other anymore? I am hit straight in my face with truth and sleepless nights with walking around looking disconnected with hearth, praying, writing and reading trying to figure things out…ugh—(THAT’S WHY I HAVE YOU, HE SAYS!) this is why I write so much for you this why my passion is bigger than my need for sleep and keeps me up until 1 am and it awakes me at 4am readers, take advantage. Reach out, stop complaining (ask questions later).

Okay now, we make mistakes—again—we live and learn, so can we learn from our mistakes and move on shall we?

Today I want to talk to you about the opportunity that God gives, and the gift that He will give you each of the 365 days of this New Year that is approaching.

Many of the people who fail their New Year’s Resolution (if they) do not have God in their heart as a spiritual guide to centralize them and keep them in the right path end up worse by the end of the year.

Some examples are that: When goals are proposed to get out of depression and to obtain mental closure if they do not seek the right help they tend to fail into a more severe depression, others who fail their diet will gain even more weight, those who say they won’t intake more alcohol if they fail will still take more than they took the previous year and alcoholism will end up consuming them, those who say and propose higher financial goals if they do not do well in their jobs feel even more inept than before (and it is there a lot of times when depression and suicide enters the homes) they let that affect them with their families and in their marriages. The reason for this is because a life without the guidance that keeps us with our feet on the ground is like trying to walk on the clouds with our feet stuck under rocks, instead of with our feet on THE ROCK (which is Christ Jesus) therefore life weighs more instead of feeling lighter.

It ALSO happens that people rise too much to such a level that fame, riches, vanity, and vainglory consumes them, it hurts their soul, and the evil yoke rots on their soul on a spiritual level that The Holy Spirit of God begins to grieve silently (but that’s another theme, for another day or for email).

I don’t know if you want to be one of the bunch, but like I said… I don’t want to be one of bunch!

I was not going to publish this type of “New Year’s Resolution” publication but I read the following today somewhere and it motivated me to write this publication,

“We can not do everything at once, but we can do something at once”

Something AT ONCE-—PACE YOURSELF Don’t you think that if we look at the days as they arrive and we make plans and goals for ourselves and for our lives in order to work on them one day at a time and one goal at a time life will begin to have more lightness in itself… in our daily routine?

God does not give us the 365 days all at the same time, then why do we try to do everything at once, or in many occasions wish for everything in life (that all the good things happened) at the same time?

Do not worry about anything; rather, on every occasion, with prayer and petition, present your requests to God and give thanks. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will take care of your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4: 6-7), worry for one day at a time Matthew 6:34, one goal at a time Philippians 3: 12-14.

God equipped us with a substance called opioids “endogenous” that is produced naturally by the molecules of our brain and helps us deal with pain naturally, these opioids are like those of morphine and heroin. This is why many people become addicted to these substances with such an ease and it becomes so difficult to break that addiction, although it was something given by God to help us protect ourselves and fight pain naturally, it was also duplicated by the enemy of God -Satan to bind the children of God to an addiction and keep them bondage to earthly chains.

When we experience traumas, painful situations, abuse in our childhood and even as adults, when we are in sick and harmful relationships and we see that the cycle continues and does not end even when we want it to end because it hurts us and we no longer want to go to on, this applies to our career paths (our relationship with our employers and coworkers), and this also applies to our church live our congregations and our relationships with our pastors and our leaders. It is healthy to do a self-examination and look to see what can be what is holding us stagnant and is keeping us stuck (perhaps bondage) and that could be what allowing us to continue in that pattern and life cycle.

That is why many times it is necessary to look at our past, our childhood or at the beginning of any relationship or career, be it employment or life path; to find out the root of the problem and uprooted—we have to work from the source and not the branches. Everything starts somewhere. As much as we do not want to, our brains produces this chemical to protect us from painful situations, and often (as it is addictive) we get used to the pain, and the cure (the drug, which is also the antidote) does not come unless we go through the disease (but the cure – the drug) is worse than the disease at times.

We must heal, heal our hearts, go through the pain, let our bodies stop producing that antidote so frequent that is keeping us addicted to creating those circumstances and those situations that keep us stagnate day by day… the Lord has processed us in this year, and we can now say in THIS new Year (and every new day) “come with new strength and heal everything that is blocking and preventing me from seeing the severity of the matter”.

Friends, do not be afraid to seek help. You do not have to wait another day, but also you do not have to do everything at the same time… you do not have to wait another year, but ALSO don’t have to do it alone either. As any addiction you need someone to help you out of it, someone who tells you how to break free, how to break the cycle in which you find yourself (we understand that it is not because you want to) sometimes it’s because you love, and love is good but it often hurts, until you are well you are not in a position to help someone else.

Not everyone falls into that category, others are in need of getting a hold of themselves just for them.

The tests and the processes that you did not completed in this year, you might have to face and retake it next year. Think about how you end this year; analyze how you are going to start this “New Year” (see how I’m speaking in present time?) all you have is now!

Are you ready, are you in shape for what is coming or are you going to wait for a resolution to get fit?

It all starts with the heart!

With love,

—Denise Kilby


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365 Días de Nuevas Oportunidades

Tendremos la oportunidad de cambiar algo este año?

Que tal si yo te digo que sí?

Hay circunstancias que creamos que se convierten en situaciones y marcan nuestras vidas, muchas otras son circunstancias de las cuales nos convertimos víctimas ya que familiares o personas con las que vivimos crean una seria de situaciones y aunque no queramos nos convertimos en presas fáciles del adversario y sin percatarnos terminamos adictos a un patrón de vida abusivo e indeseado.

Pero con cada nuevo día llega la oportunidad de comenzar de zero. Se aproxima un nuevo año, y hay tanta gente hablando de “La Resolución de Nuevo Año” pero yo no quiero ser una más del montón. Yo no quiero hablar de “Resolución de Nuevo Año” es más, me aburre el tema… la frase me cansa y nunca me a gustado, no creo en tal cosa. Creo en que la vida es una seria de circunstancias creada por individuos y seres capaces de cambiarlas en cualquier momento u oportunidad dada y realmente deseada.

(OWCH — ¿fue eso demasiado duro?) Lo siento, pero como niños no tenemos control de nuestras vidas, y cuando nos convertimos en adultos nos dan la UNICA oportunidad de nuestro tiempo de la vida LA oportunidad de cambiar las cosas y vivir la vida que queremos… ¿por qué arruinaría yo eso… por qué lo pondrías tu en peligro? Sé que muchos no saben nada mejor y están atrapados en lo que han conocido todas sus vidas. Pero hay esperanza. Hay gente como yo aquí en este mundo (es aqui cuando toma un poco de orgullo, Denise ja…) no, se llama dar por Gracia lo que por Gracia se ha recibido. Usted ve lo que estoy diciendo (realmente espero que sí), cada vez que digo Dios que es lo que está sucediendo con este mundo ¿por qué ya nadie está haciendo nada el uno por el otro? Soy golpeada directamente en mi cara con la verdad y las noches sin dormir con caminar alrededor mirándome desconectado con el hogar, como si no estuviese en esta tierra, orando, escribiendo y leyendo tratando de averiguar las cosas… UGH — (¡ES POR ESO QUE TE TENGO A TI, ME DICE!) y es por eso que escribo tanto para ustedes mis lectores. Mi pasión es más grande que mi necesidad de dormir y me mantiene hasta 1am y me despierta en las madrugadas a las 4am, tomen ventaja. Acérquense, dejen de quejarse (hagan preguntas más tarde). Hoy yo quiero hablarte de la oportunidad que da Dios y del regalo que el te hace cada uno de los 365 días de este nuevo año que se aproxima—muchas de las personas que fallan a su resolución de nuevo año si no tienen a Dios en su corazón como guía espiritual que los vuelve a centralizar terminar peor que como empezaron el año. Cuando se proponen metas de salir de la depresión y de salir del encierro mental si no buscan la ayuda correcta tienden a caer en una depresión más severa, otras que fallan a su dieta engordarán aún más, las que dicen no tomar más si fallan tomarán aún más de lo que tomaban el año anterior y el alcoholismo terminará consumiéndolos, las que dicen y se proponen metas financieras más altas si no les va bien en sus empleos se sienten aún más ineptos que antes (es hay cuando entra la depresión/ el suicidio) y dejan que eso les afecte con sus familias y en sus matrimonios. La razón de esto es porque una vida sin la guía que nos mantiene con los pies en el suelo es como intentar caminar sobre las nubes con los pies estancados bajo las rocas, en lugar de con los pies sobre LA ROCA (que es Cristo Jesus) entonces la vida pesa en lugar de sentirse liviana.

TAMBIÉN suele suceder que las personas o suben mucho a tal nivel que la fama, las riquezas, la vanidad, y la vanagloria les consume les daña el alma y los yugos malvados le pudren el alma a un nivel espiritual que contrista El Espíritu Santo de Dios (pero ese es otro tema, para otro día o para email).

No iba a publicar un tipo de publicación de “Resolución de Año Nuevo pero leí lo siguiente hoy y me motivó a escribir esta publicación,

“No podemos hacer todo a la vez, pero podemos hacer algo a la vez”

No creen ustedes que si miramos a los días según llegan y hacemos planes y metas para nosotros mismos y para nuestras vidas con fin de trabajar en ellos un día a la vez y una meta a la vez la vida comenzará a tener más ligereza… en el diario vivir?

Dios NO nos da los 365 días todos a la misma vez, entonces porque intentamos hacerlo todo a la ligera o en muchas ocaciones a la misma vez?

No se inquieten por nada; más bien, en toda ocasión, con oración y ruego, presenten sus peticiones a Dios y denle gracias. Y la paz de Dios, que sobrepasa todo entendimiento, cuidará sus corazones y sus pensamientos en Cristo Jesús (Filipenses 4:6-7), preocúpate por un día a la vez Mateo 6:34, una meta a la vez Filipenses 3:12-14.

Dios nos equipó con una sustancia llamada opioides “endógenos” que es producida naturalmente por las moléculas de nuestro cerebro y nos ayuda a lidiar con dolor naturalmente, estos opioides son como los de la morfina y la heroína aún. Es por esto que muchas personas se adictas a tales sustancias con tal facilidad y se les hace tan difícil romper ese vicio o adicción, y aunque fue algo naturalmente dado por Dios fue corrompido y duplicado por el enemigo más grande de Dios satanás para atar a los hijos de Dios a los vicio y a esclavitud y cadenas terrenales.

Cuando nosotros experimentamos traumas, situaciones dolorosas, abusos en nuestra niñez y aún de adultos, estamos en relaciones enfermizas y dañinas y vemos que el ciclo continúa y no termina aún cuando nosotros queremos que termine porque nos duele y ya no queremos continuar viviendo así, es saludable hacer un autoexamen y mirar para ver qué puede ser lo que nos mantiene estancados y (esclavizados) y eso podría ser lo que nos permita continuar en ese patrón y ciclo de vida muchas veces indeseado. Esto también se aplica a nuestras trayectorias profesionales (nuestra relación con nuestros empleadores y compañeros de trabajo), y esto, se aplica a nuestra iglesia, nuestras congregaciones y nuestras relaciones con nuestros pastores y nuestros líderes.

Por eso muchas veces es necesario mirar a nuestro pasado, a nuestra niñez o al principio de toda relación o carrera, ya sea de empleo o de vida para ver dónde comenzó la adicción (donde comenzó tu cerebro a protegerte del dolor y el trauma). Todo comienza en algún lugar. Por más que no queramos, nuestro cerebro produce este químico para protegernos de situaciones dolorosas, y muchas veces (como es adictivo) nos acostumbramos al dolor y la cura (la droga que también es el antídoto) no llega al menos que no pasemos por la enfermedad pero la cura (la droga) es más mala que la enfermedad.

Debemos de curarnos, sanarnos, pasar por el dolor, dejar que nuestros cuerpos dejen de producir el antídoto que nos está manteniendo adictos a lo que nos estanca día a día…El Señor nos procesó en este año, ahora podemos decir; en ESTE Nuevo Año (y todos los días Nuevo día) llega con nuevas fuerzas y sana todo lo que está impidiendo que yo pueda ver la gravedad del asunto.

Amigos, no tengan miedo en buscar ayuda. No tienes que esperar un día más, pero tampoco lo tienes que hacer todo a la vez… no tienes que esperar un año más, pero tampoco lo tienes que hacer solo. Como toda adicción necesitas a alguien que te ayude a salir de ella, a alguien que te diga como romper libre el ciclo en el que te encuentras (entendemos que no es porque quieres) aveces es porque amas, y el amor aunque es bueno muchas veces daña, pero hasta que no estés bien no estás en condición de ayudar a alguien más.

Muchas veces no tienen nada que ver con otra persona.

No todos caen en esa categoría, otros necesitan conseguirse solo para ellos mismos.

Las pruebas y los procesos que no completaste en este año, quizás las tienes que volver a enfrentar y retomar el año que viene. Piensa bien como terminas este año; analizar cómo vas a comenzar este “Año Nuevo” (ves cómo hablo en presente?) porque solo tienes hoy!

Ya estás listo, ya estás en forma para lo que viene o vas a esperar a hacer la resolución para ponerte en forma?

Todo comienza con el corazón!

With love,

Denise Kilby


©️2018-2019 Denise Kilby Life Coaching & Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Whoever Has Eyes and is Able To See, Read On.

DreamingFive am this morning and I saw myself ministering to the people of God at my congregation (where I attend church) telling them “that something GREAT is coming” —present time—, God was calling me to remind them that something GREAT is coming, and in the dream I was passionately telling a lady from my church, the worship leader to be more specific whom I’m keeping her name private (to protect her privacy) to minister that; in the microphones because the people HAD to sing and declare “that something GREAT is to come to the house of God INDIVIDUALLY for each of the faithful followers of Christ” and I saw another sister also from the worship team receive the Spirit of God, and then I saw at a distance a deacon (a female whom I love dearly and I am also keeping her name private for privacy purposes) in the Spirit of God!

Some-time later I got up because I heard my oldest preparing to go to work so I started to give double thanks and glory to God for that (I actually thought “this is the great thing coming!” since my oldest has been struggling to get up in the mornings for work)

After reading the Bible for about two hours and honestly not understanding why the Lord took me to read Lamentations, when He had just told me that “something GREAT was coming!” I ended up in Ezekiel and going through a few chapters of it too…only then could I understand why…

God wanted to remind me of Zion in Lamentations, and remind me that great things will come ALWAYS and WHEN His people are faithful, otherwise all the worst awaits them. As it happened to Zion… but someone has to talk to His people and warn them that He is giving them one more chance. Now I didn’t know how to warm you people (at the time) but then after hours I thought… if I have the opportunity is through this method. God said to me if you have a method use it. Great things are to come the end brings a new beginning! So I thought… December-January.

See what I’m getting at?

And this is what the Lord told me:

“The word of the LORD came to the priest Ezekiel son of Buzi, in the land of the Chaldeans, by the river Chebar; the hand of the Lord came upon him there. And I saw, and behold, a stormy wind came from the north, and a great cloud, with a surrounding fire, and around it a brightness, and in the midst of the fire something that seemed like shining bronze, and in the midst of it the figure of four living beings. And this was his appearance: there was in them the likeness of a man. Each had four faces and four wings. And their feet were straight, and the sole of their feet was like the sole of a calf’s foot; and they sparkled like burnished bronze. Under their wings, on their four sides, they had the hands of men; and their faces and their wings on all four sides. With their wings they joined each other. They did not turn when they went, but each one walked straight ahead. And the appearance of their faces was the face of a man, and the face of a lion on the right side of the four, and the face of an ox on the left in the four; likewise there were four eagle faces. That’s what their faces were like. And they had their wings extended above, each one two, which came together; and the other two covered their bodies. And each one walked straight ahead; where the spirit moved them to walk, they walked; and when they went, they did not turn around. As for the likeness of living creatures, their appearance was like burning coals of fire, like the vision of lighted torches that walked among living beings; and the fire shone, and lightning flashed from the fire. And the living beings ran and returned like lightning. While I looked at the living beings, here is a wheel on the earth next to the living beings, on all four sides. The appearance of the wheels and their work was similar to the color of the chrysolite. And the four had the same similarity; his appearance and his work were like a wheel in the middle of a wheel. When they walked, they moved towards its four sides; They did not turn when they walked. And their hoops were tall and frightening, and full of eyes around in the four. And when the living beings walked, the wheels went by them; and when the living beings rose from the earth, the wheels were lifted”.

Just as the spirit of the living beings was on those wheels when they sent the Sign of the Glory of God and moved with the wheels that covered them in the same way the Holy Spirit of God will move with the chosen ones with the fence that He has put around them protecting them when they move to take their word and message to the people of Christ!

“When they walked, they went, and when they stopped, they stopped; also when they rose from the earth, the wheels rose behind them; because the spirit of the living beings was in the wheels.”

Then on your feet is the Spirit of God NOT UNDER , and when you stand you hold firm as if it were a device that takes you from the waist to the feet IS MORE like your spine that holds you BLESSED IS THE GLORY OF God, WHEN you decide to get up from the dust and take on life there is the Holy Spirit of God giving you power and follows you like some wheels ready as a giant to get you out of the hole, and follow you in case you get stuck again! Praise be to the King.

“And on the heads of the living beings there appeared an expanse like a wonderful crystal, spread over their heads. And under the expansion their wings were straight, extending towards each other; and each one had two wings that covered his body. And I heard the sound of their wings when they went, like the sound of many waters, like the voice of the Almighty, like the noise of a crowd, like the noise of an army. When they stood, they let down their wings. And when they stopped and lowered their wings, there was a voice above the expansion above their heads. And on the expanse that was above their heads was the figure of a throne that looked like sapphire stone; and on the figure of the throne there was a resemblance that resembled a man sitting on it. And I saw an appearance like a gleaming bronze, like the appearance of fire within it round about, from the aspect of its loins up; and from his loins down, I saw that it looked like fire, and that it had a glow around it. As it looks like the rainbow that is in the clouds the day it rains, so was the appearance of the brightness around. This was the vision of the likeness of Jehovah’s glory. And when I saw her, I fell on my face, and I heard the voice of one who spoke. ” Ezekiel 1: 3-19, 21-28 RVR1960 http://bible.com/149/ezk.1.3-19,21-28.rvr1960

I said to myself I can not go over my leaders to preach a word in my church, I also don’t feel like I am prepared to do so, and I even ask how does one ask permission to bring a message at church? And God tells me not to fear—then how will I bring His word…? I believe that I have to pray and fast to find what the Lord wants to tell me in the following and to find out how to take this message to the people. Because “something GREAT is to come!”

After long hours of editing and fixing typos and brief story of my childhood and sending it to two people with massive errors making sure it wasn’t too much and proof reading it I said “ok my website”:

“He said to me: Son of man, stand on your feet, and I will speak with you. And after he spoke to me, the Spirit entered into me and he held me on my feet, and I heard the speaker. And he said to me, Son of man, I send you to the sons of Israel, to rebellious people who rebelled against me; they and their parents have rebelled against me until this very day. I, therefore, send you to children with a hard face and an inveterate heart; and you shall say to them, Thus says the Lord Yahweh. Perhaps they listen; but if they do not listen, because they are a rebellious house, they will always know that there was a prophet among them. And you, son of man, do not fear them, nor be afraid of their words, although you are among brambles and thorns, and dwell with scorpions; Do not be afraid of their words, nor be afraid of them, because they are a rebellious house. You will speak to them, then, my words, listen or stop listening; because they are very rebellious. But you, son of man, hear what I speak to you; do not be rebellious like the rebellious house; Open your mouth, and eat what I give you. And I looked, and behold, a hand stretched out toward me, and in it was a scroll of a book. And he spread it out before me, and it was written in front and behind; and there were written in it laments and lamentations and woes. “

Ezekiel 2: 1-10 NKJ1960 http://bible.com/149/ezk.2.1-10.rvr1960

I was very surprised that the Lord took me on this trip and this beautiful experience, (I felt like everything He was saying to Ezekiel He was also saying to me). Since I was a child I dreamed of preaching and I went to church with a neighbor who introduced me to the Christian church (since then I fell in love with God) all the plays they did and all the things I learned about the gospel were amazing, I remember my brother played as one of the two men who were crucified alongside Jesus. She took us both for many years, I used to lock myself up with a Bible in the room and pretended that I preached as a “hallelujah”—HARDCORE— TOO!! (Although I was baptized by the Catholic Church and I made my first communion I always visited the Christian church) on Tuesday’s and Thursday’s, those services where awesome from 7-10:30 (woo those where the days!) I remember asking my mom “can we go to church with Ana?” (Most Times was a, yes!. To try to find ‘balance’ my brother and I would sometimes walk to the Catholic Church on Sunday’s (because we were Catholics ya know…)

…I have so much to learn but I think the passion is so great that I even dream that I preach, until the other day I hesitated due to fear—doubted God and believed I was perhaps starting to become just one of the many more who thought they could preach better than the pastor since it seems to be an epidemic now a days…I came out of church and just wanted to preach…(because sometimes you get carried away by people even if you have God screaming in your ear) “I do not know if it is my illusion” (I used to say) and I said many times to God, “it is my dreams to preach to the nations the good news of the gospel, I want people to fall in love with you for you, to get to know you, and to be saved, I know what it is to be in the world and to have been saved”. But, no! Doubts are gone… I UNDERSTAND now, because I dream it and I feel it, because I can not sleep, and although I still have a lot to learn, I understand loud and clear why I came out all fired up… because I am so worried about this passion that is bigger than me. And because prophets of the Lord have told me “not to keep quiet that I was called to speak” … why? Because, this is MY CALLING!

I understand why the preparation is so important, so when the launching time arrives you can have fuel and do not stay halfway (like it happens to many people)… this is about doing what God wants, AS GOD WANTS it (not as we want it-or as the last preacher said it) with the word of God, and with the Word that God gives to us specifically for others not to find self-fulfillment. Even if it makes us feel uncomfortable at first or if it makes others feel uncomfortable, it’ll bring satisfaction to our soul, because it is a soul saving solution. Scanned by God to save your town, it requires time and preparatory and whoever does not have it loses its place… this is not a fast soul saving solution! This is a long-term soul caring solution!

THE CONCLUSION (finally huh—I know—):

“Do it individually” [that was the old conclusion] when I planned on texting everyone God tells me to…or still plan as God directs me, I originally wrote this in Spanish while standing at my kitchen counter (why standing? I don’t know, but I was inspired and it took me like two hours to translate and did it standing too).

So back to concluding,

“Why limit the word of God by texting the message to a few contacts when I could possibly reach millions” —Denise

I said I’ll bring the message; “Whoever has ears, let them hear.”

Matthew 13:9 NIV http://bible.com/111/mat.13.9.niv


I understand that this is a little different but I believe it can still help anyone who’s willing to be open-minded, if you have any questions please, contact me with an email, and I will be more than glad to respond. I love interaction.Thank you for patiently reading me, I know I can write my soul out! One day I will write a book hehe I promise (ha I’m joking not joking!!) I just publicly declared it and I believe it in the name of Jesus, I have enough writing to put a book together. Anyone wants to be my editor and publisher? I don’t have any money though, just the word of God and love to give!

Blessings my friends

—Denise Kilby


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