Speak Life Live Life

#HappyMonday … Instagram Post Style

And if you ask me when, I’ll say the time is now! This is the time to make things change, to speak the word that will change your train of thought, and change your mind. .

• I can do it!

• I am able!

• I am more!

• There’s people that are worse!

• God is with me!

• I am closer!

• I won’t give up!

• I am blessed!


• This is my time!!! …

The power of death and life is in the tongue!

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (Prov. 18:21)

… you can choose life or you can choose death and thereof speak what you believe, but remember that whichever you choose you will eat the fruits of it! …

… I choose life.

While there’s life there are opportunities, hopes, and even chances if you may call it that. So be upfront with yourself today and have a deep encounter with your soul.

I choose to speak greatness into my life. I will not let the time that I living now determine how I am going to live it, I will contribute to the time by deciding how I will live my life!

Can you do the same? I know it’s not remotely easy, and believe it or not when I am in the middle of the storm is when I write down my biggest goals and speak the loudest.

As humans we have to take ownership of the life that was given to us, we can’t let the situations determine how we’re going to feel, speak, react or behave in life.

I read this on an Instagram post this morning “Live how you deserve”-unknown

How about that, can you live how you deserve? And if you think you deserve to live any other way other than happy and well I tell ya right now, you’re wrong about that one. Go back and re-read this as many times as possible if necessary until you get it together!

Blessings always,

Denise K

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Be of Good Use Right Where You Are


Use the time that forces you to be still to mentally invest and plan for a better tomorrow” -Denise

You can make a difference right from where you’re sitting right now, whether this is in your life or in someone else’s.

– Whether the reason for you to be still now is a health condition, (e.g., me, I’m paying for running errands yesterday & taking the kids out to the park for 30 min due to my Fibromyalgia condition) or an economic situation. I suggest you to mentally invest in yourself and your future #plan

– Instead of feeling unable, use the time that you have now to figure out a way to be able without letting your thinking overwhelm you #yougotthis

– Take a moment to breathe and reconnect with your soul, think about what is it that you want to do tomorrow, what are the things that could possibly hinder your plans and keep you from reaching your goals, and how can you go around the obstacles, to accomplish those goals #overcome #recconcet

– Practicing self focused (don’t be self-centered, this is only so you can see what you’re capable of) will allow to think of yourself, to plan and to take yourself into consideration as long as you don’t think of yourself as being unable, think of yourself as being able. If you find yourself feeling bad for yourself shift that focus on those around you instead; until you’re able to think of yourself as a source to fix problems rather than a problem who needs fixing #youreable

– Don’t feel bad for the things you cannot do, again keep your mind busy on the ones you can do. Centering your thoughts on the things you can’t do will only overwhelm you and create a pause on your thinking process that will eventually become a stop 🛑 making you #unable to think, plan, set up goals, and overcome your #fears & #obstacles

– Don’t apologize for not being able to do the things you want to do at the present time, remember that all situations are temporary, and with good planing you’ll be able to move pass them. Forgive yourself and understand that there will always be things out of your control, there’s a reason for everything and everything serves a purpose #purpose


I hope this is edifying to you and that you understand that #theresmore #youremore #youreimportant #letstalk

With love,

Denise Kilby<<<<<<

Don’t Let Tomorrow Give You Anxiety

The Bible says in Matthew 6:34 (NIV), “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

Often times (more than we’d like to admit) we find ourselves worrying about tomorrow, about what it will (or might) bring, and even about how we are going to take action into accomplishing our goal, whether we will  accomplish them or not.

Isn’t the whole idea of making plans, and setting goals to be able to relax and focus on one thing at a time? Yeah… that’s what I thought too. Then why are we stewing on something that is not even in the pot?

The reason for this is called ‘anxiety’, now, you might say no kidding, perhaps you even think that’s not the reason. But, the truth is, that it is; anxiety is lack of faith and believe, first in our Creator and what He is able to do, secondly in yourself, and what He is able to do with you, through you and for you, and lastly in the power of the mind.

Woo… is this getting too real? Brace yourself, we have more. When we doubt God we deny our existence, we withdraw from ourselves, and give power to the enemy (yes, the devil). Because just like there is good in life there is also evil, who can confuse, and play mind games with us.

Isn’t amazing how people believe in evil, and the devil but don’t believe in grace and God? I think so too, but that’s a whole other topic and blog to talk about.

Back to the now… sometimes we sit and come up with a plan, write it down, and set up a goals, but  instead of achieving them we let the debris that come with the wind create a pile and blind us (keep us) from reaching our goals. Instead of cleaning the path we get used to the pieces and live happily ever anxious for ever because we don’t know how to move forward anymore (I mean who can see with dust in their eyes anyways?). Sad reality, human nature, part of life. You’re not alone though, I’ve been there, done that and come back sometimes.

Children are often scared imaginary creatures, of the dark, maybe monsters, and the boogie man, fear to this nonexistent creatures might be normal up until a certain age, and as a child develops a better notion of reality and falsehood this fear begins to stay behind them (they grow out of it), wouldn’t you want to be like a child all over again? But adults are scared of things that are easy to control, and of things that are out of their control as well.

As adults; we’ve been able to outlast those guys, but evolutionary psychologists will tell you that we’re still on constant lookout for the thing that wants to eat us next. We fail to notice, and to make assessments of the things we can control and the things that we cannot, we end up misjudging the situation by elaborating things, and making wrong theories. Thus, we begin to be scared like children all over again.

Forgetting our goals, our plans and our Creator. We are so centered on tomorrow “our goals” that we forget to live today.

You might think being scared is the only way I know how. But the reality is that you have more within you, you wasn’t created to be scared, to be anxious and to focus on the debris that you can’t see beyond it. You we’re created to focus on the beauty of life on the power of prayer and to have faith that allows you to trust, you are more, and you were created for more, allow yourself to see the truth, connect with yourself, try living again. Live how you know (yes how you to deserve), but don’t close the door to new opportunities or your ears to the words of wisdom.

If you don’t live in the present moment you will never get to live out your plans, achieve your goal, see your dreams come to pass, or see what you’re capable of.

Evaluate yourself, and see how you can put all the time that you give to being anxious to do good use in your life. Change the story!

Three decades of research shows that people with close friends are better able to survive divorces, job losses, and other traumatic events.

“Friendfluence” author Carlin Flora says that friendship has long been an evolutionary advantage.

“When we lived in groups where survival itself was difficult, you needed someone who would be guaranteed to throw you a lifeline,” she told Thought Catalog. “You can easily theorize that the notion of a best friend developed because we needed someone where we were number one on their list and they were number one on our list in those life and death situations.”


The Mayo Clinic says that exercise helps release anxiety in three main ways:

• Exercise releases brain chemicals associated with easing depression, like endorphins.

• Exercise enhances your immune system, lessening the chance of depression.

• Exercise increases body temperature, which helps people calm down.

And a pro tip: If you’re new to working out, psychologists say that “taking away the choice” of whether you’re going exercise is the key to sticking to a workout plan.

Embrace changes and begin to make them!

#youremore #theresmorewithinyou #focus


Blessings always,

Denise K.

Healing Your Heart Back to The Wedding Vows

When your marriage is falling apart due to infidelity or any other betrayal, there will be nothing quick about the healing. It will take months and possibly years to reach an emotional, physical, spiritual, and mental place that feels anything close to normal. Understandably, the person feels the pain of the initial betrayal so deeply that the idea of taking the difficult steps toward wholeness seems like signing on for more pain.

And that’s not even the hard part.

The hard part is retraining your mind to do things differently this time around. Establishing new habits in your marriage as you relate to your spouse and others is an absolute must. Battling thoughts left and right as your spiritual enemy attempts to place obstacles in your way is part for the course.

Keeping a marriage healthy, even one that has not had a significant trauma requires training, maintenance, and goal setting. Doing what it takes when you actually feel like doing the opposite – that is what is required when you deeply care about something or someone.

Restoring a marriage requires two people who are willing to do whatever it takes.

This kind of restoration in a broken marriage doesn’t come cheap. In fact, it’s quite costly. It requires sacrificing every day, crying many tears, biting one’s tongue, choosing to place another’s needs ahead of your own, and enduring a lot of pain.

Don’t lose hope, in fact with a lot of commitment, prayer and sacrifice restoration is possible. Make wedding vows an everyday thing, say some of those words at random times, but before you say it out-loud to your spouse say it in your heart to yourself. Believe in yourself so you can begin to believe in others, have Spiritual guidance and seek for the treasures of your heart, reconnect with your soul. When you know who you are and why you do/say the things you do then you begin to understand how others feel when you act/say/do the way you do.

If we are more conscious of ourselves we are less likely to walk around hurting others or doing things that don’t have meaning or make no sense.

Remember why you got married in first place, what brought the two of you together… think of what you truly want and meditate on what the true meaning of ‘marriage’ is.

Betrayal is a double-edged sword that cuts the deepest of both your feelings and emotions but restoring from it is not impossible, as long as both partners are willing to sacrifice in equal parts and make amends that last a life time.

You might need to place your heart in a scale and make sure that they both weight equally, it should never be more of one and less of the other (we should never think more of me or more for me) even when each of you loves different things. There should always be enough kindness and love to balance the scale on equality.

When both partners have the best of interest at heart for each other the cards will always be facing the right way, and the scale will always be well-balanced. Remember that your differences (gender, looks, styles, ethnicity etc.) might have been a factor for for attraction, but your similarities is what will keep you together.

A marriage is a partnership for a lifetime, a seal that shall never be lifted, a bond that should never be broken. A married couple is meant to be joined and procreate, to evolve and to conquer, not to be enemies.

Betrayal hurts, yes it hurts indeed…it hurts when we are deceit by the person we love and trust, it hurts to the point we feel we’re not enough, but we must remember to always add more than what we’re expecting to receive. Set high expectations on your marriage not only on yourself, don’t think of yourself as a single, you’re no longer one, you are now a pair a couple, you have a match…

Less is more and more is less, less of me and more of you-more of you and less of me. It takes sacrifice, and placing someone else where we want to be can be challenging, especially after you’ve been let down by that person. That is why both partners need to be equally in agreement.

Create a balance that will make them wonder if you have each other’s heart beating in your chest” – Denise K.

Healing is not impossible and it could be within the beating of your heart…

Love, Peace, Kindness, Healing, Always;

Denise Kilby


Are You Depending On Others to Feel Independent?

Make the time count and don’t count on others to make your time worth the while…

Are you an independent individual or are you co-depending on others to help you be ‘independent’? That simply means you’re not dependent at all and co-dependency is a serious problem.

In this world you can choose to follow someone else’s trails or avoid the path and create our own, we can lean and have a need to be needed or be confident. -Denise K.


I don’t see anything wrong with receiving help from others (when needed), but I do see a lot of specious with depending on another person to accomplish things or to complete simple tasks that don’t require a third person to get done.

Don’t devalue yourself by waiting for someone else to help you be self-reliance. Can that even be a thing Denise? (you may be asking right now) well yes, indeed.

If you’re constantly counting on other people to help you get things done and blaming them for not accomplishing your goals or for not helping you get a task done, you’re involving a third person where only one (you) should be involved. We don’t need anyone to wake us up in the morning, not even an alarm clock because even if we wake up late (unless where dead) we will simultaneously get woken up on our own. We abate when we wait on others to get things done, and at the same time take from them.

We take their time, and energy. If you’re blaming others for not being able to do something that was entirely UNDER your control, you need to re-examine yourself and reconnect with the inner you.

Either you’re trapped on a narcissistic personality disorder and you haven’t noticed or you’re confined by low self-esteem and or depression which causes you to depend on another human being  to help you accomplish things, feel fulfilled, able, understood, worthy, and then call yourself ‘independent’.

I am sorry if this is bothersome, and you feel like you can’t bear, but if you’re not getting it done on your own and your counting on another person to help you do things that don’t require of much effort and or help you’re just withdrawing from that person and yourself.

You’re not alone and you’re not out of hopes. It is never too late to begin again, tomorrow is another day  and whether the sun shines or the clouds overtake the skies of is God’s will you will be alive.

That will be called purpose and a new opportunity to start all over again.

What are you doing with your free time? Are you employing yourself or waiting for someone to come and tell you how to get things done or what to do next? Are you using your time wisely and acquiring knowledge, or are you waiting on someone else to come so you can try to show them what you can do?

Be wise while you can, humble in today, and hopeful for a tomorrow -Denise K




Things Look Better When We View Them With Heart

Are you living today?!

Whatever your definition of living may be make sure that you’re alive in spirit to know what it feels like! -Dk ——————————————————————Friendly advice:

1. Place your heart on everything you see, do and want: don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and or let down by others,  people will come and go but your heart will  remain with you #begenuine

2. Control the things that you can and leave the rest to God, don’t worry for things that are out of your control I.e. your past  #havefaith ————————————————————————3. Some mornings are colder than others, don’t expect to be able to change it all #bundleup ——————————————————————
4. We overcome situations that we never thought we could bear, that’s a proof of how strong you are #yourestrongerthanyouthink ——————————————————————
5. We are blessed by grace and given new opportunities everyday, use what is given to you and put it to work. Don’t sit around waiting for life to happen and or complaining for what you don’t have #beproductive #countyourblessings ——————————————————————
• Perhaps we are not living the way we want right now, but we are alive #enjoylife ——————————————————————
• Don’t complain of the gift of life, embrace every breath you take! #tomorrowmightbetoolate ——————————

• You are loved far more than you will ever imagine, let your dreams be the inspiration. #inspireothers ——————————————————————
• Life takes us places that we never dreamed of #enjoytheride  #areyouready #live #life #love #newday  #yourealive